The reasons I have for being grateful this week, including seeing friends, eating NY food, babysitting giving me some insight, and allergy medicine!Hello everyone! This week was an absolute whirlwind. I feel like I’ve been on the go since we left to come up to NY, and it has definitely gotten the better of me. It doesn’t help that this week has felt like a roller coaster, either.

In case you haven’t noticed, I really like to plan things out ahead of time. I’m not really a fan of when things are completely out of my control, but obviously, life has curveballs, and when you’re staying with others, you kind of have to play things by ear.

As a result, I didn’t have nearly as much time to dedicate to work as I had hoped, and I’m now trying to rush around to make up for it as we leave tomorrow in the middle of the day.

Regardless, I had to be grateful for the fact that my flight was free, so I’m focusing on everything good that happened outside of my main purpose of being here, as it was great to see my friends.

Grateful for Friends

I know I always say this when I visit NY, but my friends just make me feel like I’m back at home. They aren’t fans of doing anything out of the ordinary, so when we hang out at people’s houses, it feels just like old times.

I was able to spend both Friday nights with my friends, and both were done very frugally.

Most of our hang outs consist of watching shows on Netflix together, playing board games, and pitching in for food. That’s enough to keep us entertained for hours (especially as the games we play can last a while).

Then on Tuesday, I went to their routine trivia night at a bar that has free pizza. We actually won, though the other teams didn’t seem to be taking it “seriously.”

Yesterday, I hung out with another set of awesome people that I met last time I was up here. It was for a surprise party, and the surprise was pulled off really well. There were tears, smiles, and lots of food.

That also made for my first trip into Queens. We went to the Queensbridge Park. While small, it has a gorgeous river view, and it was really cool to have the bridge spanning over the park.

queensbridge park

Again, it was a low-key event. The biggest expense was, of course, the food. Even though people brought things, a Costco run was made for burgers and hot dogs. But we played a board game, tossed a frisbee and football around, and just talked and caught up.

It was a lovely time and I’m so happy my visit happened to coincide with the party. I won’t get to see this group until August when I go to that convention I’m volunteering for, but at least it’s only around 50 days away!

Grateful for Medicine

This might sound a little weird, but let me give you the story.

I have horrible outdoor allergies. I must be allergic to everything in the air. It sucks, because right when it starts getting nice out, I can’t go for walks otherwise I end up sneezing every few seconds.

Well, that happened when I was in the park yesterday. I was okay half the day, but around 7pm my body had had enough. My nose wouldn’t stop running, my throat started hurting, and my eyes were watering.

By the time I got home I was an exhausted mess. Unfortunately, I woke up feeling even worse.

My mom put her foot down and went out to get me medicine. Most OTC allergy medications don’t work for me, but I felt so miserable I was willing to give it a try.

She said she saw an advertisement for Nasacort, one of those nasal sprays, and picked it up for me. Oh my gosh, within an hour of using it, I began to feel slightly better.

Even though I’m still stuffed up and my throat is sore, I definitely noticed some relief. I will take it! So I’m grateful for my mom, and grateful this stuff is actually working. Allergies are a nightmare.

Grateful for NY Food

Of course, I have to say I checked off eating pizza and bagels while here (along with having an allergy attack). I am honestly pizza’d out. I didn’t expect to have it so many times, but it’s okay, as I don’t really eat it down south.

And bagels, forget it. We can’t even get proper Italian bread, so I’m grateful for that too. Lots of yummy stuff was consumed while here.

Grateful for Experience Babysitting

My little cousin is an absolute doll. She is so well-behaved and smart, I was spoiled. I don’t have anything to compare it to, but she told us what she wanted to eat, when she was full, when she wanted to nap, and what she wanted to do. Apparently not all 21 month year olds are like that.

Considering she was an angel, this might surprise you, but my experience actually further solidified my desire to remain childless. I was hoping for some insight after this, and I got it.

I failed to realize just how difficult it is to take care of a baby. I knew they were messy and fussy, but not until it played out in front of me did I realize to what extent! I always give mom’s credit, but they get even more now. I couldn’t deal with that while working from home.

I also realized I just really like having my own schedule. When you have a kid, you have to be on their schedule. I like my flexibility a little too much for that.

Writing Around the Web

Is There a Right Time to Pop the Question? – On Frugal Rules, I discuss if there’s a right or wrong time to get engaged, and what financial considerations should be made beforehand.

10 Awesome Father’s Day Gift Ideas on a Budget – On Wherewithal, I list out 10 unique Father’s Day gift ideas that don’t involve pricey gadgets or tools. If you’re tired of giving your dad the same old thing because he’s hard to shop for, this should give you some more ideas. (My aunt got my uncle golf lessons, which I thought was cute.)

How to Handle Relationships and Debt – On Young Adult Money, I take a critical look at how couples can manage debt in any stage of their relationship. You can’t (and shouldn’t) keep debt a secret from your partner. We all know communication is crucial to relationship success, and that includes finances.

What are you being grateful for this week? What are your plans for Father’s Day?

 

20 Comments

  1. Melanie @ Dear Debt June 14, 2015 at 9:23 PM

    Glad you are having fun in NY! Mmm the food sounds good! I also am having allergies right now and it sucks! So annoying.

    I am happy you got to relax and enjoy family time, and also reconnect with friends. It’s the best part of having a flexible schedule — so don’t worry too much about how much work you have on your plate. :)

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:37 PM

      Ugh, why do allergies have to exist? This is the most “sick” I’ve been in a while. I just wish it had held off until I got home.

      Ah, catching up on work isn’t the best, but I am happy I got to see everyone. I’ll take it over being restricted by a job with how many days I get off.

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  2. Petrish @ Debt Free Martini June 14, 2015 at 9:35 PM

    I am home in New Jersey visiting my family and I am so grateful. I have five sisters and today I was able to take a photo with all of them including my mom and I think it is a memory that will last a lifetime.

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:36 PM

      Oh wow, 5 sisters! I’m glad you were able to visit and see everyone – it’s not fun when someone’s schedule doesn’t coincide with your visit, so it’s precious when you can get together with everyone.

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  3. Kirsten June 15, 2015 at 4:21 AM

    I’ve probably mentioned this a gobzillion times but my husband got allergy testing a few months ago and the doctor said “I have definitely seen people with worse reactions than yours, but I have never seen anyone with such an, overall, reactive immune system”. He is, in short, allergic to everything. He finds that it’s minimized if he does those nasal rinses, though, which is awesome since it helps him keep down on his medicine intake. Medicine makes him drowsy – doesn’t matter what kind.

    Kids are a ton of work. Even the best kids (and I had a 21 month old just like your niece) require total and absolute attention when they are fairly small. Right now, I cook and wash dishes with a baby on my hip because she refuses to be put down (perhaps a function of the fact that she doesn’t get to see me much). I love my kids, but some days… I wonder if having kids was the right call for me. I think I am far too selfish and impatient to do the job well. But it’s a job I have, and it’s a job I love (and sometimes hate) and so I keep going. I think, on the inside, lots of moms feel the same way.

    I don’t think there is shame deciding that you don’t want kids. Not necessarily directed at you, but those who might read this comment: there is also no shame in saying you don’t want kids and then changing your mind. Whatever is right for you, that is what you have to do – not what society or family or friends want.

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:34 PM

      Oh my gosh, everything?! I can’t imagine living like that. :/ My allergies mostly only flare up around the beginning of spring, so thankfully I only suffer for about a month. The medicine doesn’t usually get to me, but I’ve just been burned out from travel, babysitting, and being off-kilter. Being sick on top of it has me exhausted.

      From what I’ve read, you’re a great mom! You do the best you can. Raising a human being is no small responsibility. I definitely don’t have enough patience to have kids. While she was adorable, I was happy to have the evenings to myself. I don’t think I could do that 24/7. But I do agree that everyone has to make the right call for themselves. Our circumstances and thoughts can always change!

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  4. Shannon @ Financially Blonde June 15, 2015 at 6:50 AM

    So glad that you are having a great trip home!! This past weekend I was grateful that I got to watch my son play a lot of soccer and fortunately didn’t get sunburned in the process. We plan to spend a low key Father’s Day celebrating my hubby and the day after that hubby’s dad is showing up to re-build our deck with my hubby.

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:31 PM

      Escaping sunburn is always good! I was glad applying sunscreen actually worked for my this past Saturday. My dad is a fan of low-key celebrations so I have a feeling we’ll be doing the same. I hope your deck turns out nicely!

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  5. Tre June 15, 2015 at 8:25 AM

    Sounds like you had a great trip to NY. We always bring a bunch of bagels back with us when we leave. You just can’t get proper bagels anywhere else! We have plans for Father’s Day but will have to celebrate later since Mr Tre is working that day.

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:30 PM

      Aw, I’m sorry to hear he’s working, but a celebration is all that matters – not the date. =)

      I really wish we could have brought some bagels back. Believe me, I would have taken like two dozen if I had the room!

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  6. Tonya@Budget and the Beach June 15, 2015 at 9:00 AM

    I went to dinner with my friend who has an almost three year old. She looked tired and she barely ate anything herself because she was focusing so much on her son. Although he is well behaved and sweet, I was tired just having dinner with them. So I get it! Glad you had fun in NY, an like you, I get easily thrown off my routine!

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:29 PM

      Ha, yes, taking her out to eat was an eye-opener, too. You just never know what they’ll do! I can’t wait to get back to my normal routine, my bed, and my computer.

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  7. Jenna June 15, 2015 at 8:42 PM

    I’m glad you had so much fun on your trip! My dad tells me Charlotte is suuuper hot right now (hotter than Houston!) so I’m sure it was nice to get away.

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:28 PM

      Yes – that’s what R has been telling me. I’m not a fan of the humidity – I’ll take the weather NY is currently having any day.

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  8. Chela @SmashOdyssey June 15, 2015 at 8:52 PM

    New York bagels are my favorite! I´ve never found anything even remotely similar anywhere else!

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    1. Erin M. June 15, 2015 at 9:27 PM

      Even the ones bought in a grocery store are way better than what you can get in the south. So disappointing!

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  9. Jayson @ Monster Piggy Bank June 16, 2015 at 6:46 AM

    Having a kid is great! This is one of the awesome gift that you may receive. And, I know you can manage your work and schedule especially when there’s help from your husband and family. If most mommies can, so can you, Erin. I am really changing your mind. LOL

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    1. Erin M. June 17, 2015 at 9:09 AM

      I know other people manage it (and I give them a lot of credit), but unless I paid an astronomical amount for daycare, I don’t think I could handle it on my own. My fiance works 12 hour days most of the time, and goes running when he comes home. He would barely be here to help, and my closest family is 3.5 hours away. Thankfully, we’re on the same page about not wanting a kid. Sure, schedules/situations can change in the future, but I’m in no rush.

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  10. Anum @Current on Currency June 16, 2015 at 4:07 PM

    It’s good to hear that you’re enjoying your time in NY. I loved reading all your articles from this week – especially the one about relationships. Now if you’ll excuse me… I must go get myself pizza’d out haha

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    1. Erin M. June 17, 2015 at 9:07 AM

      Thank you! Haha, seriously, I didn’t think I would ever say that, but I am done with pizza for at least a few weeks.

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