Hello everyone! Whew, this week was a fast one. Again, it seems like just yesterday that I had arrived at my grandma’s. Craziness. I’m not used to traveling like that, but it wasn’t a surprise that it went by so fast.

I have a lot of things to be grateful for this week!

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Catching up

First off, I got to see my cousins and their baby for my birthday! That was probably the best present I could have asked for. She has grown so much since I last saw her (before Christmas). She is absolutely adorable. My cousins admitted that they lucked out with her; she is such a happy baby. If we could be guaranteed to have a baby like that, I don’t think I’d be as hesitant about kids.

I also got to see two of my friends for my birthday, which was great. I had sort of told them on short notice, so I’m glad they were able to make time to see me. They actually treated me to lunch. It was nice being able to catch up, but I hate not knowing when I’ll see everyone again.

Our flight, round two

We left on Tuesday, and the weather was forecasted to be pretty bad. Well, it didn’t disappoint. Our flight was delayed four times! We were supposed to leave at 6:30pm, then 8, then 9:20, then 9:40, and finally, 9:54. I kept refreshing the page to see if it would change again!

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Delayed =(

My mom and my grandma were really frustrated by this, but I wasn’t bothered. It didn’t really matter when we left, but I’m also a night owl. I just didn’t see the point in complaining about something that was out of our control. And if you know me at all, you’d be very, very surprised by this! I have a bad habit of getting frustrated when things don’t quite pan out as I expected. I think seeing them overreact made me react in the opposite direction…that made sense, right?

In any case, when we finally made it to the airport, we breezed through security. Hardly anyone was there, which was so nice, because I hate being rushed there. We had to wait another two hours before we boarded, but we made it in an hour and a half, and arrived exactly at midnight.

So I was grateful that my increased efforts to be more relaxed paid off, and that our flight was pretty smooth!

Reunited…

Suffice to say, I really missed R after a week and a half of being away. We Skyped every day except Tuesday due to the flight mess-up, and while it was better than nothing, seeing him in person was certainly preferable!

As I was typing this up, R actually arrived at my parents house. My mom heard a car so I ran outside and jumped in my car before R even got out =). Then when we finally got to hug I started tearing up. I’m such a sap sometimes! Either way, in that moment, I was being grateful that he got here safely and that we have no plans to be apart for the rest of the year!

(As a side note, I have been in long distance relationships before, and I realize that a week and a half is really nothing to whine about, but I swore them off for a reason!)

Now, I can’t wait to see my cats!! We’ll be driving back on Sunday.

House hunting!

No, not for us, but for my grandma. Yes, we think we might have gotten her pretty warmed up to the idea of moving! We obviously don’t want to force her into anything, but she did come around and admit she’s actually been trying to talk her best friend into moving as well.

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For now, my grandma has decided to look at homes in the community here. She does like it, and she recognizes that it’s a great value. Or maybe she just misses us. Either way, I’m also excited simply because I really like house hunting. I have no clue why, but I find it really fun to look at other houses. It’s different when you don’t personally care about buying!

And as luck would have it, one of my mom’s childhood friends just became a licensed real estate agent here (she also moved a few years ago), so she’ll be able to show us all the homes.

I’m grateful that everything seems to be coming together with this. It would be awesome if my grandma ultimately decides to move here. It feels like no time has passed since we last saw her in April, but I know it will feel longer come next year.

Saying “no”

Lastly, I am grateful that being happy with less has truly taken hold. My mom and grandma went up to this flea market, all excited about the prospects of things to buy! I politely declined to go along with them because 1) flea markets just seem kind of “blah” to me, and 2) I had no desire to spend my money there.

Sure enough, they came back with quite a few things. I’m not trying to judge here, but the purchases didn’t seem very well thought out, and it pains me to see them spend money on such things. A flea market is one of those places you can easily get carried away in, and I think that’s what happened. They seemed happy with their purchases though, which is what counts.

But I’ve been noticing a pattern with my grandma, and to a lesser extent, my mom. I might make a separate post on this at some point, but they have a habit of buying things on sale just because they’re on sale. A sale, or a good deal, does you no good if you don’t really need whatever you’re buying!!

And as a result, we have 10 choices for dessert now, which I find slightly ridiculous, and everyone is relying on R to eat it all. Oye. I’m just grateful I know better and can restrain myself, especially when it comes to food, because this is one reason food goes to waste.

What are you grateful for this week? Have you seen any old friends or caught up with family recently? What’s the last thing you decided not to spend money on?

 

26 Comments

  1. Tonya@Budget and the Beach July 19, 2014 at 10:04 AM

    I can so relate to the paragraph where you were talking about watching your mom and grandma overreact so you stayed calm. When I go home to visit my family, I really see that trait in my dad, and I want to move so far away from that trait its not even funny. I hear myself sometimes sound like him (although he is much much worse). So when I hear him overreact I try to get super calm. That’s awesome news about your grandma maybe moving there. By you or your parents? Speaking of overreacting, I’m glad I have recognized certain traits in myself I want to change, also for not overreacting when my computer wasn’t turning on this morning, and I stayed calm and fixed it! Bad news is I can never really ever turn the damn thing off again. Long story…

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    1. E.M. July 19, 2014 at 10:24 PM

      Oh my, I am my dad through and through most of the time, and while he has improved so much, I definitely don’t want to end up where he was a few years ago! That’s awesome you stayed calm – technology issues are the worst, and I could use more patience when dealing with it! A few years ago, any time my computer made a move, it would die afterward, so I can kind of relate. They’re so delicate.

      My grandma is looking in the community my parents live in! There are some nice houses currently for sale.

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    1. E.M. July 19, 2014 at 10:21 PM

      It seriously is! Coupons are another trap others seem to fall into.

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  2. Nicola July 19, 2014 at 11:36 AM

    I was thinking about this too today – about how just because something is on sale doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Less is more! Hope you have a good weekend :)

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    1. E.M. July 19, 2014 at 10:20 PM

      It’s harder to keep that in mind when you’re in shopping mode, I think. I really don’t like seeing all this stuff going to waste! It’s a good reminder to only buy what you truly need. I hope you have a good weekend, too!

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  3. Mrs. Frugalwoods July 19, 2014 at 2:05 PM

    Oh I love house hunting too! For anyone, anywhere! Mr. FW and I regularly go to open houses just to poke around. My in-laws are thinking about moving and I’m pretty sure we’ve looked at more places for them than they have :). I cannot restrain myself around a house search, I just get so into it. Anyway, have fun with your grandma’s search–I’m sure she appreciates having your help. Enjoy your weekend!

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    1. E.M. July 19, 2014 at 10:19 PM

      That sounds like something I would do! Heck, I’ve been looking at homes around our city just to see what’s out there. Open houses are fun! We went for a walk today just to scope out the homes that are on sale, so tomorrow should be interesting. Have a great weekend!

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  4. Melissa July 19, 2014 at 4:20 PM

    I look forward to your post about not buying things just because they’re on sale! I went through a brief period where I would buy things ‘just because they were on sale’… when really I didn’t need them at all. It eventually frustrated me, which is what I unconsciously stopped. But it’s an easy habit to get swept up into!

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    1. E.M. July 19, 2014 at 10:14 PM

      I’m glad you stopped! I love a sale as much as the next person, but I only stock up when there’s good reason for it. I always ask myself if we really need it, or if I’m just drawn in by the price.

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  5. debt debs July 20, 2014 at 8:29 AM

    I’ve got lots to say about this post, E.M. Where to start? ha ha Okay let me try to go from memory without looking back, so in no particular order:

    – so cute you jumping into your car when you were so happy to see R! I can totally relate. When I first got engaged, and only 2 months before my marriage (we had a short engagement – 4 months), I headed to Ireland for three weeks with my Mom which was a trip planned before I even met The Irishman. I hated to be apart from him (& the kids). My aunt and uncle didn’t even have a telephone in the house at that time (1989, it was weird, they were pretty frugal and small town) and I used to call from a pay phone outside on the street (no skype or internet then either). For many many years we hated to be apart, even for 1 overnight. We still do prefer to spend our time together than apart, but when I took a job that had me traveling at least once per quarter for three weeks at a time, we were forced to get used to it a bit more. Luckily I was able to take him with me (at our expense for flight and food) for a few overseas trips which was wonderful. I didn’t get so lonely and it was great to be able to sight see with him on our weekends together.
    – happy your Grandma is now considering moving. This will be better for you and your Mom.
    – I used to be a ‘sale’ shopper too, but once reformed it loses it’s appeal, big time. Frankly I’m a bit surprised your Mom is still in this mode after all that your folks have been through.
    – I also do the reverse (opposite) when people stress. I think it might be human nature or a coping mechanism. Because there are plenty of time I have stressed and my hubby is calm and then some situations when it’s reversed. Heaven help us if we are both stressed at the same time! I have one sister who gets worked up about small things easily. When a big stress happens, she can be quite calm though, and I’m expecting her to be at her worse, since I know how she is with small things. Maybe she gets her anxieties out in little spurts so she has lots of reserve built up when the big things happen. Dunno. Psychology is so interesting!
    – that photo from the plane is awesome! Did you take that?

    Okay, now to skim above and see if there’s anything I forgot.

    Oh babies! Yes, when they are so good it’s really so great. I mean all babies are great but maybe just some are easier than others. My grandson is an easy one. My daughter and SIL recognize that. He really is a happy baby and I get so much joy from being with him. I think he is paving the way for baby #2, though we don’t know when that will be. My SIL wants one right away, he is almost 39 and wants one before 40. My daughter is almost 34, but she is not ready yet. But when he was first born it was not a question of when it was if. Seeing how she enjoys him so much, I think it’s safe to say that she will have another one. She did have a lot of problems breastfeeding and then later getting him to sleep on his own but they got those problems licked so they will be calmer and better prepared for the next one.

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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    1. E.M. July 20, 2014 at 12:46 PM

      I am seriously thankful for all the tools we have available now to make keeping in touch easy. I’m not a phone person, but I’m sure it was better than nothing! 3 weeks is such a long time, too. R could potentially go for a high-up managerial role which would have him traveling a lot. I always said it would be great if I could tag along and still work, this way it would be affordable.

      Yes, it really pains me to see my mom and grandma get caught up in sales. They’re normally pretty frugal people. I honestly think my grandma rubbed off a bit on my mom this trip!

      I do tend to get upset at the little things, whereas R is hardly phased by anything. I’m trying to work my way there. I think it’s easy to act in the opposite way when it’s on display right in front of you. Often we get so caught up in our own emotions, we don’t realize how irrational we’re being.

      Yes, I took the photo! It was my obligatory window seat picture, haha.

      Your daughter’s story sounds a lot like my cousins. I know they were absolutely exhausted in the beginning as they had some issues feeding and getting the baby to sleep. I’m not sure if they’ll want to try again for a second, as both of them travel a lot, and daycare costs are so high.

      I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend as well!

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  6. Liz July 20, 2014 at 9:10 AM

    I had to make a trip to Target the other day. I was super tempted to pick up a few candles and fun things. That store is SO tempting sometimes. I ended up not splurging on any extras. I was so proud of myself!

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    1. E.M. July 20, 2014 at 12:30 PM

      Awesome!! I definitely felt that way in the beginning, when I banned myself from going down the cosmetic/beauty aisles. Now I mostly go straight toward the food.

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  7. Shannon @ Financially Blonde July 20, 2014 at 10:39 AM

    I love how excited you were to see R again. FB Hubby has been in Iceland this past week and gets home today, and I feel the same way. It’s nice that after 12 years together, I still miss him and can’t wait for him to get home. And I hope your grandmother moves closer to you, that would be wonderful! I am grateful for the time I had with my son this week. Even though we miss hubby, when my hubby is away, my son is a little extra clingy with me and since he is 8, those clingy moments are rare and I value them immensely. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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    1. E.M. July 20, 2014 at 12:29 PM

      Aw, I hope you get to enjoy today with your hubby! Weeks apart really stink, but I’m glad you were able to enjoy some mother and son time =). Kids really do grow up so fast, as I’ve been witnessing with my cousin’s baby!

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  8. Will July 20, 2014 at 11:20 AM

    Buying things just ’cause they’re on sale… classic consumerist trip-up.

    Out of curiosity, what kind of technology do you fly with? I know you said you kept refreshing the flight times. I bring an old laptop which is a little ridic…

    I sent all of yesterday with my mom who’s in town to babysit my sisters dog while she’s in NY.

    I’m grateful for the weather being FREAKING PERFECT in Nebraska this entire month!

    Let me know about the tech, por favor.

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    1. E.M. July 20, 2014 at 12:27 PM

      I was just using my phone on the way over to my uncle and aunt’s house to check the flight times. I did bring my laptop along for work purposes, though. I used a backpack for Spirit’s “personal item” requirement.

      I hope you had fun with your mom, and I am jealous the weather has been nice all month! I can’t wait for autumn.

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  9. Lauren July 20, 2014 at 1:22 PM

    I used to get all worked up over delays and cancellations with flights, but the more I started traveling, the more I realized it was pointless to get upset. I always expect some sort of mishap or delay now, so I’m pleasantly surprised when travels go as planned!

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    1. E.M. July 22, 2014 at 7:35 PM

      I think that’s the best way to go about things. It still beats driving, and nothing is perfect there, either. Contending with tolls, traffic, accidents, etc. comes with it!

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  10. Done by Forty July 21, 2014 at 9:44 AM

    Buying things because they’re on sale is a ritual in my childhood home. It’s a very hard habit for me to break.

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    1. E.M. July 22, 2014 at 7:34 PM

      I *only* buy things when they’re on sale, which can be frustrating (mostly to my boyfriend) when we need groceries. But I refuse to pay a crazy amount for things. My mom definitely does this less than my grandma, so I’m thankful I never really picked up the habit.

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  11. Kayla @ Shoeaholicnomore July 21, 2014 at 2:08 PM

    I’m glad you’ve learned to not buy just because its on sale. That’s a tough lesson to learn and one I still struggle with sometimes! Glad the trip went well overall and that your grandma is thinking of moving to be closer to you. :)

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    1. E.M. July 22, 2014 at 7:33 PM

      It can be tough – especially when the price seems too good to pass up. I just ask myself if I would buy it regardless/if I really need it.

      Yes, we shall see on that front! If she does move we don’t anticipate her coming down until next year, as she would still have to sell her condo.

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  12. Practical Cents July 21, 2014 at 8:03 PM

    What I hate most about traveling is dealing with the airport especially if there are flight delays. I avoid going to the malls/stores but I’ve noticed when I do have to go I no longer feel the need to shop just because things are on sale or just because. I was just at TJ Maxx the other day and just walked right by everything and went straight to the area I wanted to look at. I guess that’s a habit I’ve gotten rid of.

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    1. E.M. July 22, 2014 at 7:32 PM

      Yeah, so far I’ve experienced delays/cancelations on four out of the six flights I’ve ever taken. Not a good track record!

      That’s awesome, and exactly what I always try to do! Plus, you waste less time that way. It’s shopping smarter.

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