Happy August everyone! I hope this week has treated you well.

I know a few of you were asking if my grandma was indeed moving after I mentioned she had been looking at houses near my parents. It turns out that she decided against moving, which didn’t really surprise us all that much. She seemed excited in the moment, but I guess that happens to most people when looking for a new home. You can’t help but imagine yourself living there.

She defaulted back to saying she’s too old to move at this point. Needless to say, it’s given me some perspective. I’m nowhere near her age, so obviously I can’t speak for her, but my grandma has always struck me as active for her age.

Until recently. I really hate to say it, so let’s just say she has one very good friend left now. She no longer has her weekly card games to look forward to, and I do wonder if that’s had an impact on her. Which is why we’ve been encouraging her to move and start over here.

R brought up a really good point, and said that maybe she is just worried about losing more friends if she moves. Wherever she goes, reality stays the same. And while my parents’ community is 55+, most people are in their 60s and 70s, not 80s.

being grateful

So I’ll just say that I am being grateful that my grandma still has the option of living alone. Her friend isn’t faring so well, as she fell and landed herself in the hospital again last week :/. (Thankfully she’s fine.)

But I am concerned, since both my aunt’s have plans to move away, and I’d rather not have my grandma there absolutely alone. That’s not for another year, so no use worrying I guess.

I already told my mom that we should split the cost of a plane ticket as a Christmas present for my grandma. If she won’t move down here, she can at least visit more!

Support

As usual, I have to give R a little mention here. I had been having sort of a rough week, and he’s always there telling me things will get better, things are not as bad as I make them out to be, and that everything will work out in the end.

I have no clue how he does it, as I’m not someone that’s optimistic 100% of the time, at all. I’ve been working on it (mainly with these posts), but I guess it’s also easier to do when you’re not in the other person’s head.

I wish I could pay him back sometimes, but he rarely needs comforting, so I bake him things instead. That counts, right?

Vacation

R and I are really looking forward to next week, as we’re taking a semi-vacation.

A golf outing for his department has been planned for a while, but everything was finalized within the last week or so. They’re going away Wednesday and Thursday, and it just so happens to be 10 minutes away from my parents! So R took Friday off to make it a long weekend.

We’ll be spending Tuesday night at my parents’, and he doesn’t need to get to the resort they’re staying at until noon on Wednesday. He thinks everyone will be leaving sometime early Thursday, so that leaves us with a little time to enjoy ourselves. I’m very grateful it all worked out this way, and I get some extra time with my parents yet again.

Being Grateful - Thirty-Seventh EditionWe can’t decide whether or not he should take another few days off in September or October (to celebrate our anniversary and his birthday), or if we should make this our actual vacation. It sucks when dealing with limited time off (3 vacation days, and he has been at the company for over a year).

If so, I am possibly thinking about splurging on an experience – jet skiing! I went one time, years ago, and thought it was well worth it. It’s a 2 hour tour through a waterway, eventually leading you out into the ocean, with the goal of seeing some dolphins. You also stop at a few tiny islands – someone actually proposed there when I went last time. No clue how he held onto the ring!

Of course, it’s cheaper to do on the weekdays, and I’m not sure if Friday falls under that, so I have to check out the pricing. If it’s too much, we’ll probably hold off.

Needless to say, R and I have never been on a week-long “proper” vacation together before, so we would at least like to take advantage of this for now.

Oh and don’t worry, those little ones are coming with us. I’m sure they’ll be thrilled. I’m not comfortable leaving them alone for 5 days, so they’ll have to deal with it =).

Do you have any plans for this weekend? What are you grateful for this week? Does your company have group outings?

 

36 Comments

  1. Kassandra August 1, 2014 at 11:58 AM

    I can understand your thoughts concerning your grandma as I worry about my mom in that way as well. I am glad that like your grandma, my mom is still able to live on her own and care for herself, but I and other family members are constantly in contact with her to make sure she is ok. I am flying my mom to NY next week for a three week visit so she’s excited about that.

    You must be happy to have another chance to see your parents and I hope you get to go jet-skiing! The DH and I are debating on whether to drive to Boston this week-end for a quick getaway.

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:18 PM

      Oh that is so awesome!! I hope you enjoy showing her around. I’d love for my grandma to come down longer than a week next time, it’s just a tad difficult to schedule around all her doctor appointments.

      Ah, if you have the extra funds and no other vacations planned, I say do it =). I’m a bad influence right now as I’m already kind of in vacation mode. I hope you have fun if you go!

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  2. Shannon @ Financially Blonde August 1, 2014 at 12:32 PM

    I hope that you and R have an awesome vacation together and get in lots of fun and relaxing time! We are headed on a family vacation, and I am really looking forward to take some time out and unplug and relax. :-)

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:16 PM

      Thank you! I hope the same for you =). Definitely unplug, you deserve it!

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  3. Mrs. Frugalwoods August 1, 2014 at 1:08 PM

    Look at those kitty eyes! Love them. We had similar concerns about my late grandma’s declining activity levels and my parents basically forced her to go to the senior center every day (she was living with them at the time). She resisted at first, but started to enjoy it and–best part–met a boyfriend, they got engaged, and then they moved in together (at ages 90 and 93!!!!). It was the best possible scenario because neither of them could live alone anymore, but they managed together perfectly. She passed away a few years ago at age 97! and we were so grateful that her final years were so rich and fulfilling. At any rate, I hope you’re able to encourage your grandma to get out and about more. And, have a wonderful time at the golf outing!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:15 PM

      It’s rare that I can actually catch them being peaceful together in a photo!

      Aw, that’s a lovely story, thanks for sharing! My grandpa passed away a year before I was born, and my grandma has been alone since. It seriously makes me sad. When we were still living up there, we visited every weekend, so I really thought she would miss us enough to come down. There are tons of retirement homes being built around here, so if it comes to that, hopefully she’ll be willing to relocate. It seems as though the thought of having to pack everything is what’s holding her back.

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  4. Andrew@LivingRichCheaply August 1, 2014 at 1:10 PM

    Wow, only 3 days! That’s tough…hope you guys have a great vacation. I haven’t gone jetskiiing in awhile but it was fun.

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:12 PM

      Thanks! Yeah, his company is weird in that I guess they just go from January. He started last April, so extra days won’t kick in until next year. At least his bosses don’t care if he uses sick time to cover part of it (if we went away for a week).

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  5. Kayla @ Shoeaholicnomore August 1, 2014 at 1:35 PM

    I hope you enjoy your “vacay” and getting to see your parents again. I also hope you get to go jetskiing, it’s fun!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:11 PM

      If it didn’t cost me anything, I would totally own a jet ski. I almost fell off last time, but aside from that, it was pretty exhilarating!

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  6. Tonya@Budget and the Beach August 1, 2014 at 1:48 PM

    It’s a strange thing to watch your parents and grandparents age. It’s scary to me because there are so many things I want to do differently. My mom, who is unhealthy, does’t even seem to want to come visit me even though I would buy her ticket. Not that I mind too much going home, but sometimes it can be a bit depressing in Michigan. But that’s another subject for another time. Glad the weekend getaway worked out with seeing your parents again!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:10 PM

      It is! I guess I also don’t want to accept the fact that things change. My grandma can’t be upbeat forever. I can’t even get my parents to go to the doctor for an annual checkup. I sucks being worried about everyone’s health :/.

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  7. Ashley @ Saving Money in your Twenties August 1, 2014 at 2:43 PM

    That’s awesome that you’re taking a mini-vacation! So cool that R’s trip happened to be so close to your parents :) I am thankful fora BEAUTIFULLLLL day today- it’s finally warm in rochester and I’m loving it! (I don’t like that their normal summer temps are 70 something.. uh, that is NOT summer weather…)

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:07 PM

      I will gladly trade you! I’m perfectly fine with temperatures being in the 70s. :P Today our apartment was at 77 without the AC and I was checking to make sure it wasn’t broken.

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  8. Kali @ Common Sense Millennial August 1, 2014 at 2:53 PM

    Yay vacation! I hope you have a ton of fun and get to go jet skiing! And if your cats are well-behaved on car rides.. I’m envious. You’ll have to teach me how you got them to be happy with riding!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:06 PM

      I’m really hoping they’ll be fine. They were good on the move – I had used a pheromone spray in the car and their carriers that actually worked to keep them calm! I was amazed.

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  9. Lauren August 1, 2014 at 3:01 PM

    I always think it worthwhile to spurge on experiences. You usually end up making great memories, even if it costs a bit more than you’d like. Have a great weekend!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:03 PM

      Exactly! I think we’ll have a lot of fun on the jet skis. I remember them offering pictures after, too. I hope you have a great weekend as well!

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  10. Traci August 1, 2014 at 4:20 PM

    Experience splurges are the best kind!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 9:02 PM

      Indeed they are!

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  11. Melissa August 1, 2014 at 9:37 PM

    Aww, I’m really digging the being grateful to R part! I had a tough week (and a tough Friday! What the heck??) and B ALWAYS makes me feel better. Like you and R, B never really needs to be reassured (at least, not like me). I should really bake him things! It’s nice to have a reassuring person in your life – while you could rely on your parents for that, I find it’s better relying on your partner. It really feels like a team!

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    1. E.M. August 1, 2014 at 11:31 PM

      I’m sorry you had a tough week, I hope you have a relaxing weekend to make up for it! It definitely feels like we’re more of a team when we’re supporting each other. Thankfully, my parents are also always supportive of me, but since R and I live together, he knows when I’m upset. No use hiding it.

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  12. No Nonsense Landlord August 2, 2014 at 3:28 PM

    Glad your grandmother is doing well. When you get past 80, every day is a blessing.

    I am looking forward to moving to a warmer state, at some point. I hope I do not get ever get to be too old to do it.

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    1. E.M. August 2, 2014 at 10:58 PM

      That’s very true! We tried telling my grandma that you’re never too old to move. As long as it’s a goal of yours, I’m sure it’s one you’ll accomplish. I’m taking this as a lesson to not be afraid of trying new things for when I get older myself.

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  13. Holly@ClubThrifty August 4, 2014 at 7:00 AM

    Your cats are cute and I hope you have a great mini-vacation!

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    1. E.M. August 4, 2014 at 10:52 AM

      Thanks Holly!

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  14. Suburban Finance August 4, 2014 at 9:50 AM

    I’m nowhere near your grandmother’s age, but the same thing pretty much happened to my grandmother as well. I guess that’s a phase of life you can’t avoid. I hope you enjoy the outing!

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    1. E.M. August 4, 2014 at 10:51 AM

      I guess so! Even more reason to enjoy life now, right?

      Thanks!

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  15. Ryan @ Impersonal Finance August 4, 2014 at 12:29 PM

    My grandma went through that with her close group of friends, and it wasn’t easy on her, and wasn’t easy to see. But, that’s why it’s so important to try to make every moment count! I hope you guys had a great weekend!

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    1. E.M. August 5, 2014 at 9:17 AM

      Exactly Ryan! I can’t imagine how hard it is; my grandma likes to stay practical about it, as she’s a generally happy person, but I have to imagine it hurts. I hope you enjoyed your weekend, too!

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    1. E.M. August 5, 2014 at 9:16 AM

      Thanks Stefanie! It is pretty stingy, but I think he’ll get at least 5 come next January.

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  16. Practical Cents August 4, 2014 at 9:20 PM

    It’s so hard to get our elderly parents or grand parents to change their ways or think differently. My mom stayed with me one week and she could not wait to get back home. My father in law is the same way. He will only come visit us once/year. Their are just set in their ways I guess. Have a great vacation!

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    1. E.M. August 5, 2014 at 9:15 AM

      It’s so true. My grandma wouldn’t have even come to visit us if not for the fact we were flying back. She seemed more open to the idea of coming down with us versus coming down alone.

      Thanks!

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  17. debs August 8, 2014 at 6:11 PM

    Glad to finally get a chance to catch up on your blog and find out more about your vacation plans! Sounds like it will be a good week. Enjoy!

    You can’t control your grandma so just take one day at a time and cherish to conversations and visits that you get with her. She may surprise you all and change her mind or keep going for a long time yet.

    Have a great week E.M.! You deserve it!

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    1. E.M. August 9, 2014 at 1:22 PM

      Thanks Debs! You’re right on my grandma – I want her to be happy, I just worry about her! It’s funny because my mom and I called her today, and apparently she was asking one of her favorite doctors for recommendations on doctors down here. At the very least, Spirit is sending my mom great flight deals, so maybe we’ll get to visit at some point before the year ends.

      I hope your week back goes well =).

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