Being Grateful: Twenty-First Edition

Hi everyone! I hope you all have had a great week as usual. It’s funny to think a week ago we had just received the news that R got the job, and in one week, we’ll be saying good bye to this place. Even though both of us can’t wait to get out of here, we’ve both lived here our whole lives, and in some ways, we’ll miss it. Or at least the memories that were made.

I’m sure next week will go by fast, considering I’ll only be working Tues-Friday. Saturday starts a new week according to payroll, otherwise I would have worked. I’m not excited about losing a day of pay, but I did work this Monday for doubletime, so hopefully that makes up for it.

being gratefulAt times, being grateful was kind of difficult this week. R’s company cannot get their act together, and it’s been this way since he started this moving process. No one will get back to him, and when they do, it turns out he’s called the wrong person (meanwhile he was told to call them). Our truck reservation was made for August instead of April…it’s just a mess.

I don’t deal too well with things being out of my control like this. I could have had everything booked and ready to go by now! What really sucks is that his company only reimburses you based on the amount of miles you’re moving. We are eligible for $1,500. While that sounds nice, the truck eats $1,000 of that. My parents had the same truck for their move and it took $300 of gas. Because we’re going to my parents’ house first, and then our hotel, it will probably be more.

On the bright side, this is why I am grateful that I saved up so much for this move. We are definitely going to be paying out of pocket for something. Seeing as we only have the truck for four days, and aren’t going to get an apartment that quickly, we’ll need to secure a storage unit.

On top of that, our landlord’s want us to pay for a full month, and they want to keep our security deposit. That’s a whole other story that I was fuming about the other day. So if we manage to find something later this month, we’ll essentially be paying rent three times (this rent+deposit+first month).

In the spirit of being grateful, I had to update this. I saw one of them after work and by all accounts it seemed like we would be paying. R went up there tonight and apparently they didn’t communicate at all (they’re husband and wife). The wife told us we don’t owe them anything for the month – they’ll just keep the security deposit. I can’t tell you all how relieved I am!! This lifts a serious burden off our shoulders, because we’ll only have to pay rent once, whenever we find our next place. Whew.

being gratefulI’m grateful that my grandma has taken it upon herself to scout out boxes for us. R has taken home some from work, and began packing a little the other day when he was off. He keeps telling me we really don’t have much to pack, and I couldn’t believe that until I really broke it down in my mind. Now I feel a little better about it! And hey, if he wants to pack, be my guest; it’s my least favorite part of moving! I’d rather unpack.

Of course, I am grateful that my parents booked a flight to come here next Tuesday. My mom ended up joining Spirit’s $9 fare club so she got a decent deal. She’ll be helping to clean up and tidy the apartment, and I’m thinking my dad will paint (if they allow it). I do feel bad for giving such short notice, so we told our landlord’s we would try and help in any way possible.

My parents have really gone above and beyond for us this entire time. They did, after all, drive me to Charlotte and then they went back home shortly after that. They also drove us to Wilmington when we thought that was a possibility back in November. It just proves they really want us to be happy, which is a nice feeling. They’ll also be housing our cats until we get settled in somewhere, and will be helping us move into our new apartment. Talk about a lot of work!

I’m grateful for the plans we’ve already made once we get down there. My aunt and uncle invited us all over for Easter, and then the community that my parents live in is hosting a garage sale, so we are hoping to sell some stuff then, and possibly acquire some furniture. We will need a kitchen set at least; my dad is making us a coffee table and night stands.

I’m also grateful that I was able to squeak in an appointment at the dentist’s and optometrist’s for this coming Monday. When I leave work, I will lose my coverage again. I just hope the dentist can do whatever work needs to be done in one day, even if it means lots of pain. I know it’s my fault for not doing this sooner, I just hate going!

Anyone have more exciting plans than packing and going to the dentist’s for this weekend? Who else hates going? Do you wear glasses/contacts?



  1. Tonya@Budget and the Beach April 4, 2014 at 5:43 PM

    Ugh man moving and packing is just the worst. Good thing is it’s only a minor blip in life and you will be settled in in no time! Listen to some good music while you pack, and maybe have a beer…that helps. :)

    1. E.M. April 4, 2014 at 8:01 PM

      I will suggest the beer to the boyfriend; I’ve never acquired a taste for it! Music is a really good idea though. We had a mini-dance party last night while lifting some weights, so I’m sure it will get us through packing.

  2. Alicia @ Financial Diffraction April 4, 2014 at 7:59 PM

    Oh man, last minute moving is super stressful (sorry!)… I reacted the same way as you. But it is an awesome opportunity, you just need to get to the other side of it. Eye on the prize :)

    I am grateful for having the weekend off and getting to relax for a bit. I went to see Captain America tonight for a date night with the fiancé. It was nice to go out, even if it was just to the movies, because we sometimes end up being such homebodies.

    1. E.M. April 4, 2014 at 9:17 PM

      Yes, I can’t wait for this all to be over with! I can’t believe there’s only a week left.

      Aw that’s cute! We need to go see it, but in a few weeks when it’s (hopefully) not as crowded. I hear you on being homebodies as we often are, too.

  3. Anneli @thefrugalweds April 4, 2014 at 8:41 PM

    Here’s to new adventures! While moving is a bit nerve-wracking (and sorry your landlord is being less than understanding to you!) I love the idea of starting new again. Getting rid of stuff that you no longer need – that’s awesome (hello, tax deduction with all that Goodwill donations!)

    Did you ask your BF’s company if they’ll give you more relocation expenses because you have to cover all your rent stuff? I know a lot of companies will do that for relocating people! Just a thought. Good luck :-)

    1. E.M. April 4, 2014 at 9:14 PM

      Thanks for stopping by Anneli! Our luck improved as our landlords decided not to charge us rent this month; they’re just going to keep the deposit. My boyfriend’s company is pretty cheap. They are covering a two week hotel stay in which were hopefully find a place to live, so I guess we can’t ask for much more. I don’t know how an actual family with kids would be able to do it though!

  4. Jamie V April 5, 2014 at 11:05 AM

    Moving is definitely not my favorite thing, either. I hope it goes as smoothly as possible for you. The drive down the coast will be so pretty (I think?)! And so many new adventures await you!
    I’m toying with moving halfway across the country myself, and if my boyfriend wants to come along, he can, but I want to move south. North Carolina was recommended to me as well as Texas. I really don’t know how to even decide on a place as I don’t really know too many people in the south. It is great that you will have family around once you settle in, a nice little community. Good luck!

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:23 PM

      Thanks! Ha, no, the drive is extremely boring! I’ve made it several times now, and what kills me is going through all of VA and then (usually) all of NC. Those trips were made to SC. A lot of people at work have been saying Charlotte is a great choice. I’ve heard good things about Austin, TX, too. There have been a few bloggers enjoying Nashville as well.

  5. Mrs. Southbound Savers April 5, 2014 at 12:25 PM

    Oh wow, that all went extremely fast for you guys! So glad to hear it worked out. Moving can be pretty stressful, but the good thing is that it declutters a lot of junk you didn’t even realized you’ve collected over the years, at least, that’s how it went with our moves. I remember thinking that we just did not have that much stuff anyway, but in the end we had so many different things that we were able to throw away or donate. For me, that’s a great feeling as I hate it when “stuff” ties you down.
    Good luck guys!

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:21 PM

      Agreed. I actually just moved last June, but I said whatever didn’t get used between then and now has to go.

  6. Kathy @ SMART Living April 5, 2014 at 12:30 PM

    When I found your website the title of your blog caught my eye. And Whew! Wtih a short term move planned it will be VERY helpful for you to stay grateful as much as possible. (I found the practice to be EXTREMELY helpful!)

    One small suggestion, I’m not sure what the law is where you are but in California and in Colorado it is illegal for a landlord to keep your deposit for any reason if you leave the apartment in a good condition. If you don’t have a contract with them you might qualify to get it all returned. But then you might have to fight for it. Just depends on how you feel about that. Don’t automatically assume that they are telling you the truth.

    Have a GREAT move and let the adventure continue.

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:20 PM

      Thanks for stopping by Kathy! I appreciate the advice, but unfortunately we don’t have a lease. It was just month-to-month. I’m fine with how things turned out now, though. I was mostly worried about having to pay for this month on top of the security. Now I only have to worry about paying rent and deposit for another place that’s hopefully cheaper!

  7. DEBt DEBs April 5, 2014 at 2:32 PM

    I guess you will miss that cute little screened in porch you have a picture of ay? Good luck with the packing and the move. Will be anxious to hear of your unfolding adventure as it well… unfolds!

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:18 PM

      Thanks. I’m just glad the hotel has free wifi so I can still blog and check up on things!

  8. Jen @Sprout Wealth April 6, 2014 at 9:23 AM

    Aw, I go nuts about last minute things too because as much a possible, I want order especially when moving. We have moved around several times, my kids and I, and I know how stressful it can be. Nevertheless, here’s wishing you and R the best in your new place.

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:17 PM

      Thanks Jen. I really hate having to try to plan everything last minute. That’s life though; something will always pop up.

  9. Traci April 6, 2014 at 4:28 PM

    I love reading people’s thoughts on gratitude. Sounds like you are staying very level headed about finding peace despite the frustrating parts of your upcoming move. Good luck!

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:16 PM

      I am trying very hard, believe me! Just a few more things need to get worked out and then we just have to successfully get down there.

  10. SarahN April 6, 2014 at 7:15 PM

    I sort of love a move to get me decluttering, and getting everything sorted. Must be something about my type a personality! In some ways, the sooner the better (otherwise I spend too long ‘waiting’ to pack, which is annoying to me!).

    I sort of dreamt that I wish I knew your address, so once you left I could send your landlords an anonymous letter with all the things you’re far to nice to tell them – like their jumping around! Alas I’m sure you wouldn’t like it though!

    Glad you got the medical stuff all sorted before you leave.

    I’m pretty grateful for getting through most of my to do list I posted, and doing things I didn’t specifically mention, such as groceries, and teaching Sunday school and having ‘un’ planned time to spend with the mum of the twins. She always needs some heart to heart time, and it was great to finally not be ‘rushed’

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:14 PM

      It’s true – moving is a nice reason to declutter a bit. Well, maybe the next person to live here won’t be as nice. For all I know, they might think they’re not being as loud as they are. It’s hard to know until you’ve been living here for a while.

      Nice job on getting your to do list done, plus some extras! That’s always a good feeling.

  11. DC @ Young Adult Money April 7, 2014 at 6:37 AM

    Sorry to hear about the frustration with R’s work. I am like you where I can’t stand when things are out of my control. I really hope that the move and transition goes smoothly, and enjoy your last week of work! Also glad that the situation with your landlord worked out.

    1. E.M. April 7, 2014 at 10:14 PM

      It is really hard to sit on the sidelines when our lives are kind of hanging in the balance. Every person R called wouldn’t answer and would take days to return his call. There wasn’t really anything we could do. Thankfully, it seems like everything is finally straightened out, so we are hoping to enjoy our last week here!

  12. KK @ Student Debt Survivor April 7, 2014 at 9:55 PM

    I HATE moving and swore I’d never move again when we moved into our condo. We had movers but it was still exhausting. Hoping the process goes smoothly for you.

    1. E.M. April 8, 2014 at 4:33 PM

      Thanks! I was slightly contemplating having movers IF his company covered it, but it’s clearly not in the budget. We really don’t have an overwhelming amount to pack, though, so it probably would have been pointless.


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