Being Grateful: Twenty-Ninth Edition

This week has been a long one! Or at least, it seemed like that. Not being able to sleep well tends to have that effect. In any case, I hope you all had a good week and are looking forward to the weekend!

being grateful

The biggest thing I am being grateful for this week is my grandma’s health. About two weeks ago, she had a really bad stomach virus (apparently it was going around), and she didn’t eat for two days. She slowly got better, but then had a little relapse this past Wednesday.

My favorite building in Charlotte
My favorite building in Charlotte

My mom Skyped me to tell me and I immediately started worrying. Everything seemed to happen after we left! I didn’t mention it because it wasn’t a huge deal (thankfully), but my grandma was also in a small car accident before Mother’s Day. She has quite a lead foot and not much patience. From what I heard, she was trying to go around someone who was turning left, and when she went to go around him, someone hit her, which caused her to hit the turning car.

Not good, but no one was hurt. She hadn’t told anyone about the stomach virus, either, so no one was checking in on her. She is so stubborn like that. If R and I had still been up there, we would have known as we visited her every Sunday.

I hate feeling helpless down here, so I was very glad that she sounded ten times better when I called her on Thursday. She had gone to the doctor and her blood work came back fine, except that her electrolytes were a bit low. She stays away from salt due to high cholesterol.

Needless to say, that’s one less thing to worry about! My grandma is actually coming to visit in July, and I’m hoping that won’t change. She kept resisting for some reason, so I figured it would make her feel better if she flew with us when we came back from the wedding. This way, she will only have to fly back home herself.

Getting her down here is still on my mind, though. I realize it’s slightly selfish, because if she was closer to my parents, we wouldn’t have to worry as much. Putting myself in her shoes, I can see how moving would be really overwhelming (heck, it was for us!), plus there’s the issue of her doctors being where she is.

She is 83 now, and we like to say we don’t see her slowing down anytime soon, but I would be lying if I said these two happenings didn’t scare me a little!

Meetup fail

frozen yogurtR and I went to the Meetup gathering last night, and it was slightly crazy! There were around 150 people that had accepted the invitation, and we figured it might be too loud to really get to talk to people. It was held at The Whisky River here in Charlotte, which is actually owned by Dale Earnhardt Jr. We were excited to get the chance to meet new people and simultaneously explore a bit of the city center.

So how did it go? Well, as we had slightly expected, it was too loud, and everyone was already in their little groups, talking with each other. It largely seemed as though it was a singles event – there weren’t many couples there that we saw. So after talking to maybe two people, we decided to leave.

We had only paid $6 for parking, but we wanted to make the most out of being in the city center, so we wandered around for a bit. We were actually at the EpiCenter, which is like an outdoor mall. There’s mostly places to eat, but it was really neat.

I spotted a frozen yogurt place and we went in to get a little treat. I don’t even remember the last time we had it! R knows it’s a guilty pleasure of mine. It was $7 for the both of us (we split to make it cheaper), and it was delicious!

So, lesson learned: look for other meetup groups that don’t involve needing to shout to talk to people, and Charlotte at night is really cool. Nothing like NYC, that’s for sure.

Our AC isn’t working again

You might have also seen on Twitter yesterday that our AC broke, once again! I seriously could not (didn’t want to) believe it. I knew the “solution” they came up with last time was um…not going to be very effective.

acThey basically told us we needed to keep the slatted door open, because they thought the air might be restricted inside. Okay, so why did they bother with this design in the first place? Why isn’t anyone else having these issues? Just seemed weird. We were also advised to keep the blinds shut. Really? Not my sunlight, too!

The kicker was, this advice was coming from someone that worked in another apartment complex. Yep, that’s right, not even from our own. Apparently they can’t find decent employees?

I do have to say I am grateful they’re at least coming out. R hadn’t told me this previously, but when he had called up last time to check to see if they had received our maintenance request, the person on the phone was very nasty. We had put in our request on a Friday, and they thought R was implying someone should have fixed it over the weekend. “Nobody comes out on the weekends,” was their response. R wasn’t even asking about that!!

Well that was a lie! They do come out on the weekends. Guys, we’ve only been here two months. How am I supposed to take this crap for a year?! This is why I was afraid to live in an apartment complex. R and I have already agreed we are moving into a house rental next time around. Hopefully with a decent landlord.

In any case, we were told the guy would be here today, but ironically, R saw him at the clubhouse when he got home from work. In about 15 minutes, there was a knock on our door. This put a damper on our plans, as the meetup started at 7, but it also allowed R to go to work today to squeeze in some extra hours. So I guess it worked out for the best!

He will be coming back Monday; in the meantime he gave us a temporary solution should the AC break before that (and he did “fix” it). He’ll be opening up the unit this time to hopefully get to the bottom of things. I cannot believe it will have taken FIVE tries to fix this issue.

What are you guys grateful for this week? Do you try and make the best out of bad situations? Any plans for Father’s Day next weekend? I feel like it was just Mother’s Day!



  1. Melanie @ My Alternate Life June 7, 2014 at 11:51 AM

    I am so glad your grandma is ok! She is in my thoughts. I can imagine how stressful that is. I am sorry about your meetup fail. I hate when you have to shout over people just to chat. But you had some frozen yogurt win! :) This weekend I am writing, going on a bike ride, going wine tasting, and more writing. So a fun, packed weekend. Also, thanks for the reminder on Father’s day. Sheesh, I almost forgot!

    1. E.M. June 7, 2014 at 7:59 PM

      Thanks Melanie! I’m glad it was only her electrolytes, which is an easy fix (hopefully). Sounds like you have a fun weekend planned! We need to go on a wine tasting adventure at some point. It’s something we’ve been meaning to do. You’re welcome for the reminder! It snuck up on me, too.

  2. Lauren June 7, 2014 at 2:53 PM

    Glad your grandmother is doing okay! I totally relate to your concerns. Mine is turning 87 this year, and I am in awe of her. She still drives herself all over, lives on her own, etc. It’s always scary when she gets sick, though.
    Hope they fix your AC soon- sounds like the apt complex is totally inept when it comes to maintenance!

    1. E.M. June 7, 2014 at 7:55 PM

      That’s awesome! My grandma is really independent, so I’m glad she can still do so much on her own. Most of the time, she is running circles around us.

      I’m not sure what’s going on with them, I am just hoping we don’t have any other issues for the next year!

  3. Debt Busting Chick June 8, 2014 at 5:24 AM

    Sorry about your Grandmother, I totally understand when you say you worry. I’m a bad worrier myself and I have been for the longest time. I hope she gets well soon. It’s great that she’s still driving at 83. She must be incredibly active.

    I’m thankful for getting through my side hustles this weekend and sticking within budget.

    1. E.M. June 8, 2014 at 9:17 PM

      I’m a horrible worrier! I’ll worry about things that haven’t even happened yet. So bad. My grandma is pretty active; she goes gambling once a month with her friends and she’ll often spend all day baking when the holidays come around. It’s amazing.

      Those are great things to be thankful for! You’ll get to start the week off well =).

  4. Tonya@Budget and the Beach June 8, 2014 at 10:02 AM

    man a stomach virus is no fun, but for someone who is 83 it can be dangerous since there is a risk of dehydration and possibly falling. Glad she is OK. It seems like as people get older they get set in their ways and stubborn. I always wonder if I’ll get that way. Hope not! :) I would think living in a complex you’d have more access for people to fix things but I guess not. Hopefully this will get resolved soon and it will just be a minor blip of a problem. No plans for father’s day. My dad is in Detroit.

    1. E.M. June 8, 2014 at 9:16 PM

      I was definitely worried about her becoming dehydrated and dizzy :/. Thankfully she stayed put the entire week. My entire family is filled with stubborn people, and I have that in me as well, but not to the point of putting my health at risk. I don’t think some people realize how foolish they’re being when they don’t want to face reality :/.

      It seems like they have about three people to do work on the AC’s. We were told a few other people had issues with their units, so I guess it’s just been a bad few weeks for them. You would think that’s all the more reason to get to the bottom of it!

  5. debs@debtdebs June 8, 2014 at 10:14 AM

    I completely understand your worrying about your Grandma. Sounds like you guys are really close. She sounds cool, zipping around in traffic (bad Grandma!). hee hee My Dad is 89 and also still driving. Thankfully he lives in an apartment only about 2 kilometers from us. We usually have him for dinner every Sat night, except last night we babysat my Grandson. His parents went to a BBQ at friends for the first time. Needless to say, they were quite anxious leaving him but all went fine. But, back to my Dad and health issues- he had a bad fall in the lobby of his building and hit is head on a sharp corner and needed 8 staples in his head. He looked like Frankenstein for awhile! He said there were a lot of people in the lobby at the time and he was trying to go around them and got knocked over somehow. They did MRI and all that stuff and let him out of hospital the same night. This happened at 4:30 in the afternoon and we didn’t find out until 9:30 p.m. when he called us from hospital asking us to pick him up. He had been sent by ambulance by the people at his apartment. Doctors at the hospital kept asking him to call family but he said “What’s the point?” I’m going to be here for awhile.” They take so long to do tests and review results and he didn’t want to bother us. Sheesh!

    Sorry to go on so long, just to say “I hear ya!” LOL Anyways, following your A/C woes and hope it finally get’s resolved the right way and pronto!!!

    1. E.M. June 8, 2014 at 9:13 PM

      Seriously, your dad totally sounds like my grandma! She was actually admitted into the hospital yesterday … my mom didn’t get notified until today, when one of her sisters called. I’m a little peeved by that; just because we live in a different state doesn’t mean we care any less! But in any case, goes to show you it takes three times for her to feel bad to admit there’s something else going on. We are hoping she gets released tomorrow and everything turns out fine.

      I can’t believe he was trying to get around people in the lobby, though. How inconsiderate of them! I’m glad he turned out okay after that. Eight stitches is no joke.

  6. Raquel@Practical Cents June 8, 2014 at 12:29 PM

    I can relate to your worrying about your Grandma. I’m a care giver for my mom and it’s a worry whenever she gets ill. Nice to hear she’s going ok. It’s difficult to get older people to change their ways. My father in law is 78, lives in NYC, and it’s difficult to get him to visit us in NJ. They are very set in their ways. My mom is too and she’s just 68! Ha!

    The AC issue sounds terrible. I’m sorry the rental is not turning out as you hoped. It’s such a nice looking apartment. It sounds like the unit needs to be replaced and they don’t want to bother with doing that. I know I have to replace mine in my house but for now I’m using window units. I hope you get a “real fix” soon.

    1. E.M. June 8, 2014 at 9:03 PM

      My parents are pretty set in their ways, too. It was a little hard just to get them to visit here last month! Whenever we left Long Island, it was always a pain to get through the city anywhere, so I can’t completely blame anyone for not wanting to leave once they’re in there!

      Thanks. I think they’re stalling, too. R was thinking they should still have warranties on the units, though, so I’m not sure what’s going on anymore.

  7. Holly@ClubThrifty June 9, 2014 at 7:26 AM

    Ugh! I love those Pinkberry-type frozen yogurt places! I haven’t eaten at one in forever, but the temptation is always there =)

    1. E.M. June 9, 2014 at 5:11 PM

      I think I’m declaring it my little monthly treat!

  8. Shoeaholicnomore June 9, 2014 at 11:31 AM

    Geez! What a nightmare. I hope they get to the bottom of it!!

    1. E.M. June 9, 2014 at 4:59 PM

      I do too, otherwise I’m telling them we want a new unit and that is that!

  9. Liz June 9, 2014 at 11:57 AM

    I am glad to hear your Grandma is doing okay. My grandma has started to take a few falls and even though they are “little” they are really hard on her body. Last year she was in the hospital for a few weeks because she cracked a rip from a fall. Getting old seems really hard sometimes. She is a constant reminder for me to exercise and get plenty of calcium in my diet (read: frozen yogert!) while I’m young. My dad wants to have steaks on the grill to celebrate so I am looking forward to this coming Sunday! We will join them for lunch. Should be nice.

    1. E.M. June 9, 2014 at 4:58 PM

      Oh no, I’m sorry to hear that! I have heard too many stories about my grandma’s friends falling, so I was glad that she at least called for help last weekend. The littlest things that happen to them do have a huge effect it seems.

      Ha, frozen yogurt is great! Steaks on the grill sound very nice.

  10. Shannon @ Financially Blonde June 9, 2014 at 4:44 PM

    I have never heard of meet up. Was this your first time? Have you done it with better success in the past? And I can’t believe your AC is out again!! They need to start refunding some of your rent for the days that you don’t have AC. You can’t expected to be forced to live like that in Charlotte. And yes, it does feel like it was just Mother’s Day and we are planning to watch my son play soccer and stay low key on Father’s Day.

    1. E.M. June 9, 2014 at 4:55 PM

      This was our first meetup. It’s just – they have tons of groups on there for almost every interest! It made me more hopeful about finding some friends here, but we’ll be looking at going to calmer events in the future.

      They didn’t come back today like they told us they would, but I’m just glad they got the AC working again for the weekend. I already said if it happens again, I want some form of compensation, since it’s getting out of hand!

  11. DC @ Young Adult Money June 9, 2014 at 5:52 PM

    It’s always tough with aging grandparents. I had to miss my grandfather’s birthday a couple weekends ago, and I felt really bad. They live about an hour away and the weekends are the only time we’d be able to stop by, but it’s tough when weekends are also the only free time we have AND my wife works every Saturday, at least in the morning.

    Hope your AC got fixed (permanently) today! I’m grateful for my wife this weekend. We celebrated her birthday this weekend and got some quality time together. It’s easy to forget how lucky I am to be married to her when life is so busy, so the quality time was nice.

    1. E.M. June 10, 2014 at 1:41 PM

      I know how it feels. As much as I love visiting my parents, R likes to get some work in on Saturdays, and sometimes we just don’t feel like making the drive out to them. But there’s always a little nagging voice that asks me what might happen if I don’t go. I hope you’re able to see your grandpa soon at least!

      Aw that’s cute! Happy belated Birthday to her =).

  12. Debt and the Girl June 9, 2014 at 6:20 PM

    I love these articles. I used to do them all the time on my blog but haven’t done one in a while. I think appreciation is so very important especially nowadays when its not really talked about.

    1. E.M. June 10, 2014 at 1:39 PM

      Thanks Natalie! You should do one – even if it’s just once a month =). It’s nice to be able to go back through them all, too, especially when times get a little rough.

  13. Done by Forty June 10, 2014 at 11:03 AM

    So sorry about the AC, and your grandmother as well. Still, good on you for looking at the bright side of things!

    1. E.M. June 10, 2014 at 1:38 PM

      Thanks, I’m trying! I might actually start a little journal in addition to these posts, to make it into a daily habit.

  14. Derek @ June 10, 2014 at 11:20 AM


    Glad to hear Grandma is OK for the time being.

    Are there any clauses in your lease about timely maintenance? I’ve never rented before, but I thought there are usually terms on when it is appropriate to break the lease. If they have not fixed the item after 5 times, this seems to be cause. You could at least threaten this to give ammo into getting it fixed properly once and for all….

    The unit definitely has leaks… no question about it. They are trying to be cheap by replacing the freon without repairing the leaks.

    Did you know that it is actually ILLEGAL for a HVAC tech to fill the system up with refrigerant if there is a known leak where more than 40% (I think that’s right) will leak out in a year. It is federal law – you can google it. I would also use this info once you find and validate it to get the damn thing fixed properly.

    Good luck – I feel for you :-)

      1. Derek @ June 10, 2014 at 11:31 AM

        Local regulations could be more stringent… I would try to find out if you are still having problems after the next repair attempt.

    1. E.M. June 10, 2014 at 1:37 PM

      Thanks for all the information Derek! I will have to look into it. Our units are on the roof, so there is really no way for us to know what’s going on. Unfortunately, we kind of have to take their word for things. Every single repairman is claiming it’s working as it is supposed to, and they honestly have no clue what’s going on.

      So far leaving the door open has been the only thing to work well enough, as the other two times the unit stopped working again about an hour after they left. But obviously something is still wrong when the problem arises again, even if it’s 10 days later as opposed to an hour!

  15. KK @ Student Debt Survivor June 10, 2014 at 8:07 PM

    Sending prayers and good thoughts to grandma. I’m very close to my grandparents and I can’t even bare the thought of something ever happening to either of them. They’ve been such a source of constant support to me.

    I hope that your AC issue gets solved once and for all. That’s so frustrating, especially with the weather getting hot.

    1. E.M. June 11, 2014 at 12:15 PM

      Thanks KK, it means a lot. We haven’t had a loss in the family since I’ve been alive, and I’m really attached to my grandma, so I try not to think about the inevitable too much.

      I know, it was 90 out yesterday! I’m not ready for it, much less without an AC.

    1. E.M. June 11, 2014 at 12:14 PM

      Yeah, we haven’t lucked out with them yet!

  16. Jen @Sprout Wealth June 11, 2014 at 5:59 AM

    I have and will always have a soft spot in my heart for the elderly. They are very endearing and they impart many great and valuable lessons in life. Even if life does not come with instruction manual, we have grandmothers! Glad to hear that your grandma is okay. I have my 80-year old mom living with me and my children adore her to the moon and back and we are very grateful for her.

    1. E.M. June 11, 2014 at 12:13 PM

      “Even if life does not come with instruction manual, we have grandmothers!” That’s so true. I’d have to include my mom in there, too, as I call her for every little thing.


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