Being Grateful

This week was crazy for me. Things are coming to a head at work and I’ve come home exhausted and hungry as I haven’t been able to take a lunch break (except for yesterday). I was planning on writing a separate post about it this week, but I didn’t have it in me. The last thing I wanted to do was talk about work after a long day. It’s just felt like a really long week, and I am glad the weekend is finally here.

That said, it always helps me to remember that things could be worse. No matter how stressful my job is, I know there’s others who work longer and harder than I do. I am trying to cut back on complaining as most things at work are out of my control now, but I’m sure just about everyone is guilty of venting about work once in a while. However, not taking it home with you can be beneficial, to an extent, so I’ve just been trying to focus on myself when I get home instead.

being grateful

I saw other posts by Sarah and Alexandra¬†about gratitude, and I think it’s important for us to step back and reflect about the things that are going right in life, even if they’re small. I have been a pessimist for so long that being grateful doesn’t come naturally to me, which is why it’s all the better that I get into the habit of doing it.

So this week, I’ve been grateful for:

  • Having my usual dinner night at my grandma’s house
  • The fact that my grandma was kind enough to hold all our winter clothes in her attic, and wash mine as they smelled like smoke, courtesy of my parents…
  • Finding out the amazing news that I got a score of 100 on my civil service test, which might open a lot of doors (more on this next week)
  • Putting priority back on my relationship. Being so stressed has impacted everything around me, and while R is very supportive in general, it’s hard for him to sit there and see me so unhappy. It was time I stop letting stress hold me back and instead I just let myself enjoy our nights together.
  • The nice weather we have been having, which I should savor apparently, as it’s supposed to get warmer again.
  • Seeing my paint color ideas come to life as my parents paint their house. I never got around to making a post about how we decorated while I was there (I will!), but it took us about three days to decide on paint colors, and everything is coming out really well. It can be tough to start with nothing since the house was all white!
  • In general, the fact that I am in decent health, and my family is, too.
  • Speaking of, my cousins had a baby! They were there from 6am and the baby was finally born around midnight. Whew! They had to induce her as her doctor had to take a few days off, so Thursday was the cut off date. I’m so excited for them and can’t wait to see her, hopefully in a few months.
  • That the internet started working again! I was talking with my parents about it and my dad asked me if the wireless antenna was bent. It was straight. I didn’t realize it could bend…oops! So hopefully no more woes with that!
  • For my 2 year anniversary with R, which is tomorrow. We don’t have any fancy plans as we usually save that for next month in combination with his birthday. I need to scout out Groupons or just find somewhere cheap to go :). I cannot believe we hit the 2 year mark already. It seems like just yesterday he was accompanying me to my classes at college to hang out with our friends.

I am not sure if I’ll do this every week, but I felt like it was important to get out there. The reason I haven’t been continuing posts of the week is that sadly, I haven’t had time to read everything I want to, and I don’t want to possibly leave something out. Plus, I’ve seen others comment that a post filled with a bunch of links is kind of boring. So if I do continue it, I might pair it with this kind of post quickly at the end.

I hope you all have a great weekend! Anyone have plans? What are you grateful for this week?

 

29 Comments

  1. Michelle September 28, 2013 at 1:39 PM

    Happy 2 years! :)

    I think it’s always important to stop and thinking about the things that you are grateful for.

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    1. E.M. September 28, 2013 at 10:18 PM

      Thanks! I think so, too, otherwise we become a little too complacent.

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  2. Micro September 28, 2013 at 3:11 PM

    Congrats on the 2 year mark. I was interested in the point you made about the antenna. I’m guessing you must get internet via satellite or is it by some other means? Sorry to pry, my degree is in electrical engineering so when I see topics of electronics, I get to a “oh, tell me more” mood.

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    1. E.M. September 28, 2013 at 10:18 PM

      Thanks! As we are renting, we just piggy back off of my landlord’s wireless. Their modem and router are upstairs, so sometimes the connection is a little shaky. I was just referring to the little antenna on the wireless card I have – I might be misusing that, but it seemed fitting.

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  3. Alexandra @ Real Simple Finances September 28, 2013 at 4:12 PM

    Happy 2 year anniversary! And thank you for mentioning my post. :) I know how you feel with being too busy to even be able to put out a post. That has been my life lately. But hopefully everything calms down for you soon! Keep being grateful.

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    1. E.M. September 28, 2013 at 10:16 PM

      Thanks! My internet being a bit shaky wasn’t helping with the blog as when it came time to do final edits in the morning, it wouldn’t work. Should have done everything beforehand, but things happen!

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  4. Girl Meets Debt September 28, 2013 at 7:37 PM

    Sounds like a great list of things to be grateful for this week. Happy 2 years to you and R! I hope you two have a lovely evening! This week I am grateful for having a caring fiance who took care of me while I was sick. :)

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    1. E.M. September 28, 2013 at 10:15 PM

      Thanks! Aw, I hope you’re feeling better – being sick isn’t fun, but having a sweet SO to take care of you is always nice.

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  5. SarahN September 28, 2013 at 7:50 PM

    And to think I forgot my gratitude in the haste of finishing yesterday’s post, and three days without a post! SO I should at least share here!
    1. I’m thankful for the weather, still so nice, and mild and no rain!
    2. My mother helping get us to a wedding and home, and sharing her shoes with me, and buying me a lovely colour bathmat just cause!
    3. Getting money back from Medicare, and the flower roster!
    4. A lovely relaxed wedding yesterday
    5. Getting the gift sorted pre wedding and having it delivered before the wedding
    6. A day off on Friday!
    7. Date night with the boy on Thursday night, going to the cool Chur Burger in Surry Hills
    8. Getting almost all my to do list done for the weekend before Sunday!
    Thanks for helping me to remember to do this!

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    1. E.M. September 28, 2013 at 10:12 PM

      Of course! Wow, getting everything done already is great, Sunday should be relaxing for you then! Seems like everything has been going smoothly for you :) Your mom getting you a bathmat sounds like something my mom/grandma would do. They’re always thinking of the little things.

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  6. Budget and the Beach September 29, 2013 at 9:25 AM

    You have a lot to be grateful for. Hope you and R enjoy your anniversary and you get out and enjoy the nice weather!

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    1. E.M. September 30, 2013 at 11:59 AM

      Thanks! We did for a little, apparently it’s getting warmer out again this week so that should be nice.

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  7. Done by Forty September 29, 2013 at 11:39 AM

    Like they say, perspective is everything. We typically have it better than it seems we do, so good on you for finding a way to be grateful for the things that are going well.

    Here’s to a better week!

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    1. E.M. September 30, 2013 at 11:58 AM

      Perspective really is everything! It has always been hard for me to focus on the bigger picture vs the small things, but I am trying!

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  8. Marissa@Financetriggers September 29, 2013 at 5:12 PM

    Counting our blessings and progress is a must do. Especially in our journey to FI. It’s important to celebrate milestones and acknowledge the fact that things can get really great and look forward to more things to be thankful for in the coming days, weeks, months and years. Happy 2nd Anniversary to you and R!

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    1. E.M. September 30, 2013 at 11:57 AM

      Thank you! I agree – even though it may seem like we have a long ways to go on gaining FI, every payment toward our student loans is getting us closer to it, and that’s important to keep sight of.

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  9. Holly@ClubThrifty September 30, 2013 at 8:04 AM

    I think that focusing on what you’re grateful for is an awesome idea. Actually, I could stand to do that right now. Our life is a mess with the move and all…but we do have a lot of GOOD things going on in our lives. I need to remember that!

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    1. E.M. September 30, 2013 at 11:54 AM

      It is great to focus on the positives when you feel like there’s so much going on that it’ll never end.

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  10. Andrew@LivingRichCheaply September 30, 2013 at 10:24 AM

    Great post…I’ve been feeling tired and stressed too and it does help to think about things you should be grateful for, I’ll have to check out those articles. Congrats on scoring a 100 on the civil service exam…can’t wait to hear more about that.

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    1. E.M. September 30, 2013 at 11:52 AM

      Thanks! The combination of feeling stressed and tired usually leads to negativity all on its own, and focusing on the negatives. It is really helpful to frame things in a positive way when you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed.

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  11. Lisa E. @ Lisa Vs. The Loans September 30, 2013 at 1:02 PM

    I’m sorry that work has been stressful :( I think it’s great that you choose to focus on the things that you are grateful for though! I hope you go to relax this weekend.

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    1. E.M. October 2, 2013 at 9:49 PM

      I am planning for a relaxing weekend. We did a bunch of running around the first half of this week so tonight was just chill out on the couch night.

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  12. anna September 30, 2013 at 3:41 PM

    Sorry to hear about the stressful situation, but I loved how you turned your attitude around to one of gratitude! It’s quite easy to fall into that stress trap, and that’s great that you were self-aware of it enough to realize you have a lot of great things in your life, from your sweet grandma to two years with R! Happy Anniversary, and congrats on the civil service test, can’t wait to read more about it!

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    1. E.M. October 2, 2013 at 9:48 PM

      Thanks! It is entirely too easy to get caught up in the little things. I’m done letting them get me down. Others have it so much worse and it’s important to keep that in mind.

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  13. jefferson @See Debt Run October 1, 2013 at 9:25 AM

    My family has a “Thankful for” meeting every night just before bed, where we each have to say 3 things that we are grateful for, either from that day– or from life at general.

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    1. E.M. October 2, 2013 at 9:46 PM

      Aw, that is such a wonderful idea! If I somehow ever have kids, we are totally doing that (my loose plan is not thinking about parenthood for another 8ish years). I might present the idea to my boyfriend actually, thanks!

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  14. KK @ Student Debt Survivor October 2, 2013 at 8:50 PM

    I love gratitude posts. Bf and I almost killed each other picking paint colors lol. Looking back on it it seems so stupid, but at the time we were pretty intense. I’m very grateful for my family, friend, bf, health, job (and so many other things).

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    1. E.M. October 2, 2013 at 9:32 PM

      R and I are pretty in tune with what our favorite colors are. He is a bit crazier than I am (since he is an artist, he loves interesting color combinations), but I think we will be able to make it work whenever we get to paint in the future. My parents kept consulting him when we were painting the old house.

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