There are a lot of pros and cons to homeownership that people don't think about before buying. A house is a huge purchase - don't make it blindly.Owning a house as a primary residence has never, ever been part of my plans.

I’ve been perfectly fine with the idea of renting ever since I moved out of my parent’s house.

However, my boyfriend owns a house (he purchased it before we were dating), and I moved in with him after I left Texas since it made the most sense all-around.

A number of months have passed, so I figured now would be a good time to sum up the pros and cons of “owning” a house…from the perspective of someone who would rather be renting.

(So no, I don’t technically own the house, but I do pay rent, and I have purchased/split the cost of furniture and whatnot. My boyfriend insists it’s “our” house, so there you go.)

I find that a lot of people make it their “plan” to become a homeowner after settling down because it’s part of the classic American dream. It’s what we’ve been told and taught to do after graduating and getting full-time jobs.

However, I don’t think it’s a good idea to do something “just because” it’s what everyone else has been doing for years. I always challenge the status quo – especially when it comes to huge purchases – because I want to stick to my values, not society’s values.

My thoughts? I firmly believe a house isn’t an investment, unless, of course, you buy it with the goal of making it a rental property.

A house is also likely the biggest purchase you’ll ever make. Why go into that purchase blindly?

Here are some of my unconventional thoughts on the subject (in slight rant form) to hopefully shed some light on homeownership for those who are thinking about it.

The Downsides of Owning a Home

I’m going to kick things off by focusing on the cons, because even though living in a house has its upsides, the single biggest downside to me – the entire reason I don’t want to own a house – is that it gives you no flexibility.

No Flexibility

Typically, houses are long-term purchases. You should probably plan on living in a house for at least 5 years before selling it, and 5 years is way too long for me to want to stay in one place.

Sure, in some cases, you could buy a house and then sell it after a few years. You might be forced to relocate for a job, or something else unexpected might happen. There are exceptions to this.

But, for the most part, plopping down a hefty amount of cash for a down payment and then being “locked” into a mortgage isn’t my idea of a fun time.

I love renting because, in some cases, you can choose how long you want to lease a place. At the very least, one year is much shorter than five. And I don’t have a mortgage hanging over my head.

Again, my views are slightly unconventional. I’ve never wanted to “settle down” in the traditional sense. I want to travel and experience living in different places. I also wouldn’t be opposed to living overseas for a short time.

Basically, I’m all about exploring different areas, and putting down roots doesn’t appeal to me. I have no real reason to buy a home to live in all the time. I’d much rather rent and be free to move around.

Again, there are some solutions. You might be able to sell your house for a profit after a short time. You might be able to turn it into a rental (if you’re okay with being a landlord). You might be able to turn it into a vacation home or short-term rental if you want to do a few travel stints.

Given the choice, I’d rather not have to deal with that.


Our Neighbors Suck

Another point for no flexibility: you might get stuck with some really shitty neighbors if you don’t do your due diligence when buying a home.

Or, your neighbors might be nice until one day, they’re not. Or new people move in.

This is an inevitable part of owning a home.

The interesting part is that I always thought renting was worse for this. Apartment walls can be thin, and there were times I was kept up by parties happening underneath or to the side of my apartment.

Unfortunately, our current neighbors have some issues. They really enjoy staying up until 5am arguing extremely loudly about who knows what. The police have been over there around three times to no avail. We even found an empty beer bottle in our yard, courtesy of them.

Oh, did I mention that upon seeing our dog, one of the people who lives there felt compelled to tell us about the time he had to shoot one of his dogs because it attacked his other dog?

Lovely people.

The worst part is they leave their kitchen window open, and that’s their exclusive “F YOU GET OUT!” room. That window is directly across from our bedroom window (with 2 feet in-between).

There have been a few times we haven’t been able to sleep because they’re busy telling each other to f off and get the f out of the house. Why can’t they do just that?!

Solicitors Are Annoying

I didn’t even know solicitors were still a thing until the first time the doorbell rang and someone asked to speak with the homeowner.

After treating me like I was 9 and completely incapable of being old enough to be home alone, they revealed the reason for being there: could we interest you in a different internet package?

Ugh. And I thought pop-ups on websites were annoying.

This never happened at my apartment complexes. Most places where I lived had a NO SOLICITORS sign at the entrance, and most of the time, it was followed. I would sometimes come home to magnets or menus from new restaurants, but at least they never knocked on the door to bother me.

Simple solution would be to get a door with a peephole, but that’s a rather expensive solution. I could not answer the door, but what if it’s important?

I think prefer living on the third floor of an apartment where even delivery people didn’t bother coming to the door!


Our Neighborhood Isn’t the Best

Okay, I’ll admit – our neighbors are mostly a reflection on the neighborhood as a whole. We don’t live in the best area, which is probably why my boyfriend was able to get a decent deal on the house.

Sadly, this area was hit quite hard with Hurricane Sandy. As a result, some houses were abandoned, others were foreclosed on, and it’s not uncommon to see houses in ruin with notes taped to the door.

It’s been bouncing back slowly, but the surrounding blocks aren’t the best. I don’t always feel safe walking around at night.

I didn’t really have a say, though, considering the house was purchased pre-relationship. My point is, again, due diligence is important when selecting a house.

You Have More Responsibility

Overall, homeownership means having more responsibility. If something breaks, you need to fix it. You have to find the contractor, coordinate with them, and pay for it, or figure it out yourself.

I can argue that it’s much easier to submit a maintenance request or call your landlord to have an issue dealt with.

However… sometimes, maintenance isn’t reliable. I’ve never really had a good experience with them. Issues took three or four visits to resolve; employees weren’t always pleasant; sometimes they never showed up.

So this one is a double-edged sword. If you have the skills and connections, fixing things isn’t always horrible. You also don’t have to worry about getting charged extra at move-out for something you didn’t do, or something you accidentally damaged. But you do need to worry about sprucing your home up if you want to sell it.

The Upsides of Owning a Home

While I value flexibility much more than stability, it’s hard to argue that homeownership isn’t more stable than renting.

Yes, your mortgage may get sold and passed around like a hot potato, but at least you don’t need to worry about the rent going up, or the management company changing (and then proceeding to suck).

Rising rent is a huge issue, too. At the end of our last lease, our rent was going to increase by a few hundred dollars. And unfortunately, if we wanted to go month-to-month in the meantime (to find a place), we’d have to pay several hundred dollars more. Even a 3-month lease didn’t make financial sense.

It was a bad situation to be in, and since moving can be a giant hassle, the stability of owning is a nice reprieve.


No Pet Restrictions

Well, I shouldn’t say none, but there are fewer pet restrictions when you own, and no pet fees to worry about!

Many apartments don’t allow pets, and if they do, you need to fork over a non-refundable deposit, along with a one-time fee (or pay a monthly fee).

That being said, if you live in a place with an HOA, there may be breed or weight restrictions. Additionally, your homeowner’s insurance may spike if you adopt a breed that’s considered “high risk.”

You Can Change What You Don’t Like

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I wished I could combine different aspects of two or three apartments that I really liked. Each had great things, but weren’t perfect on their own.

With a house, you can change whatever you don’t like (besides the neighbors). You can build new things and rip others out. You can customize anything you want.

So while homeownership may not have flexibility in the sense that I would like it to, you do have more options for the actual living space you occupy.

Case in point: the house didn’t come with a dishwasher. We got one for free, bought the necessary installation parts, and my boyfriend and his brother re-arranged the cabinets and installed it. As a bonus, my boyfriend bought a butcher block to go over the cabinets that were moved.

If an apartment doesn’t come with a dishwasher, you’re out of luck.

When I rented, I also wished I could hang something up, or change the paint, and I couldn’t (or I’d have to pay a fee).

It can be difficult to make an apartment feel like home with those restrictions. I’m not really one for decorating, but it’s nice to have small touches here and there.


You Don’t Have to be as Considerate

Now, I’m totally not advocating that people should be like our neighbors, because their way of handling everything is disrespectful and annoying.

I’m more or less talking about when I lived on the third floor. I had to tip-toe everywhere, and I felt awful when I accidentally dropped something. I also couldn’t run the dishwasher or washing machine at 1 in the morning (when I usually remembered to do it).

I can hop all over this damn house without having to worry about disturbing the people underneath us. (Which is good for impromptu dance parties and racing around with the dog, in case you were wondering why I’m hopping around.)

I can run whatever appliances I want whenever I want!

If you have enough space between houses, you can probably play your music a little louder (so you can sing horribly, also louder than usual).

And you don’t have to worry about setting off the fire alarm at odd hours because you suck at cooking.

(These are all classy reasons for being inconsiderate, by the way.)

Outdoor Space

I know not all houses have this luxury, but it’s interesting to have a backyard again.

I’m not really one for using it (it’s also very small), but it’s nice to have the option of entertaining outside if we wanted.

The biggest pro is being able to have a BBQ; most apartment complexes don’t allow this since it’s a fire hazard. Though I’ve seen several balconies with BBQs on them – who cares about safety, food is more important! 

You can choose to have a pool, a shed, a tennis court – whatever you want.

It’s also much easier to have a backyard with a dog since you don’t need to take them for a walk every time they need to go to the bathroom.

However, I will point out that many apartment complexes offer great amenities that you can access without having to worry about maintaining them. Pools, gyms, dog parks, free coffee bars, business centers, etc. all come to mind.

Of course, there might be select jerks that don’t abide by the rules who get these amenities taken away (ahem, people who kept bringing glass bottles to the pool area, breaking them, and then forcing the pool to close for clean-up…).


Which Wins? Buying or Renting?

Personally, I can’t wait to rent again. I’d also like to point out that it’s totally possible to rent a house and not have to deal with all the potential downsides of renting within an apartment complex.

I’ve had fairly bad experiences with both management companies I’ve dealt with, and I think dealing with one (or two) landlords is much easier. After all, management companies are all about sales. Some lie or embellish things.

Renting from someone that owns the place tends to be more personal, but you still need to vet them to ensure they’re not crazy and won’t be checking up on the apartment every single month to make sure you haven’t burnt it down. (Also, if you rent a basement apartment like I did, you might still deal with noisy, inconsiderate people who live above you.)

Overall, I like the privacy of houses. I like not being right next to my neighbors. I like the fact that I get deliveries straight to my door; I don’t need to check-in with the office and wonder if they misplaced anything.

Moving into a house is also much easier than moving into an apartment that isn’t on the first floor. (Not having to deal with flights of stairs also makes grocery shopping better.) You also don’t typically need to worry about securing a good parking spot, something that is ridiculous to be concerned with every time you go out after most people are home from work.

But right now, I don’t want to be tied down. I also don’t want a mortgage hanging over me. After I pay off my student loans, I want to enjoy being debt-free for a while.

Thankfully, the house we live in would make for a good rental, and it’s in an area where many houses are rented out. My boyfriend isn’t opposed to renting it out should we find ourselves wanting to move sooner than later.

The only situation where I’d be okay with a mortgage is buying a duplex or triplex, living in one of the units, and renting the other(s) out.


What About the Financial Implications?

You might have noticed that I didn’t mention one of the biggest issues that people love to debate over: which is better financially?

A lot of people think renting is a waste because you don’t own an asset and you’re giving money to someone else when you could be building equity.

As I mentioned in the beginning, I don’t view primary residences as an investment, so I’m not sold on this line of thinking.

However, the implications are too complicated for me to get into, and I’m not well-versed in the subject enough to cover them.

All I’ll say is that owning a house doesn’t fit my lifestyle, so I don’t give the financial implications a lot of weight. That being said, we live in an expensive state, and the mortgage on this house is much cheaper than renting nearby. One-bedroom apartments in decent areas are around $1,200-$1,400, if not more, and our mortgage is $800.

As with most things, I believe it comes down to your values. Some people want the stability of homeownership, while others want the flexibility of renting. Neither is inherently right or wrong, and you should consider which matches your lifestyle first. Just because everyone around you seems to be buying a house doesn’t mean you have to join the club! Do what’s best for you.

What are your thoughts on the pros and cons of renting or homeownership? Which have you found to be more enjoyable? If you’re a renter, are you looking forward to owning someday? 




  1. Rachel @ The Latte Budget November 29, 2016 at 4:09 PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! My fiance and I are currently renting, and I don’t see that changing anytime soon. We enjoy calling maintenance when something is broken and having a pool and gym, plus we aren’t ready to commit to living in one place for 5+ years. It is funny how many people ask when we are planning to buy a house assuming it would be the next step for us. Renting gets disapproval from many for whatever reason!

    That being said, I am excited to move into a house someday in an area where we will be for the long-term. I pretty much just want to skip the “starter home” step and save to purchase a nicer, more permanent home. Plus, then I plan to get 10 more dogs :)

    Guess it is a matter of preference and the cost comparison will be different for everyone, but I am very happy renting in the meantime!

    1. Erin M. November 29, 2016 at 4:48 PM

      Yeah, it’s a little strange that people just expect you to settle down because that’s how things are. It’s basically like asking, “So when are you having kids?” right after you get married. I’m glad you’re doing what you feel comfortable with, and I love your reasoning! A bigger living space = more pets for me, too.

  2. Daniel Palmer November 29, 2016 at 4:30 PM

    This is a pretty detailed list! And a very good point about the neighbors! We’ve been fortunate to have fantastic neighbors (they even mow the lawn for us on a whim from time to time). I can’t imagine having bad ones!

    1. Erin M. November 29, 2016 at 4:46 PM

      That sounds lovely! I’ve actually never had horrible neighbors before, but I’ve also been lucky to live in houses that had more space between them.

      1. Daniel Palmer November 29, 2016 at 5:06 PM

        Space definitely helps- we share a wall with our neighbors!

  3. Tonya@Budget and the Beach November 29, 2016 at 7:44 PM

    “Apparently” I’m making “enough” to own a home in LA (although LA is huge and there are pockets-lots of them of terrible neighborhoods), but still can’t imagine buying here. I’m not going to say I’d never own, but I like the freedom to be flexible with locations. I don’t like being tied down to any debt, even if it’s “good debt.”

    1. Erin M. November 29, 2016 at 9:24 PM

      Same here! I don’t want a mortgage and I like the freedom too much. Figuring out what to do with a house after just a few years of owning isn’t a great situation to be in (as I’m finding out).

  4. Liz November 30, 2016 at 5:28 AM

    I still rent, and I agree owning a house is for long term and an investment. By the time I own a house, I make sure it’s one big shot and I want it for long term as it’s kinda stressful to relocate and sell the house.

    1. Erin M. December 1, 2016 at 1:50 AM

      Selling a house is definitely stressful. I still remember everything my parents went through a few years ago to get the house sold. It’s much easier to simply move out of an apartment, have an exit inspection, and not have to worry about much after that.

  5. DC @ Young Adult Money November 30, 2016 at 6:21 PM

    Really good analysis, Erin, and enjoyed hearing the stories from your current home. To be honest it makes me feel a bit better about my neighbors – at least they aren’t yelling at each other at all hours of the night! Reflecting on owning a home for a little over 4 years by far the biggest downside is the repairs and renovations. We bought a home that needs renovating and has a never-ending list of projects, but that requires either a ton of time or money. Unfortunately since I started to do more and more side hustles there has been little time! We finally bite the bullet and hired out a couple of big projects but there’s still much more to do. With renting if you don’t like your place you can ask your landlord to fund renovations or you can always move out.

    1. Erin M. December 1, 2016 at 1:57 AM

      Yeah, we’re in the middle of discussing a possible addition just because the house is so small. It’s manageable, but we think it would improve the value of the home (2 bedrooms seems more attractive than one). The problem is the cost! At the very least, my boyfriend was lucky in that most of this house was totally re-done after Hurricane Sandy, so all the cosmetics are new. Our friends are in the process of a renovation and dealing with the contractor and getting the loans for it have been stressful.

      1. DC @ Young Adult Money December 8, 2016 at 10:13 PM

        Hey if it works out well for your friends perhaps you could use their contractor? I am all about referrals though I also swear by Angie’s List…but an addition would be a big thing to sign up for. We have a 3-week project starting Monday that we hired out. Upstairs bathroom and downstairs Kitchen (renter’s kitchen). Should be nice when it’s done but it will be stressful having the crew in our home every day for the next few weeks.

  6. Andrew December 1, 2016 at 12:52 AM

    Wow that’s a pretty comprehensive list! I’m renting right now because it’s more affordable.
    I rent from a management company and they’ve been good so far. Plus, they’re usually pretty fast on maintenance issues. Only downside is that they aren’t the friendliest bunch and seem unhappy when you call the office.

    In the long run I’d want to switch over to home ownership. I think the increased costs and other items you listed should be considered, but the benefits win out for me.

    1. Erin M. December 1, 2016 at 1:49 AM

      Yes, another good point! The people who worked the leasing office often seemed annoyed when anyone came there with an issue, or called with one. They also had extremely high turnover. I do enjoy not having to deal with that. It’s nice to feel welcome in a community.

      I’m glad you know home ownership is the right (future) decision for you!

  7. Andrew@LivingRichCheaply December 2, 2016 at 2:10 PM

    My wife and I rented when we were starting out…it’s much more flexible because we didn’t know where our jobs would take us and when we would start a family. It made sense at the time. We bought a co-op after we had our first son, though it doesn’t feel like we own our own home since it’s still apartment living. Buying a house is way to expensive here in the NYC area. We’ve considered moving out to LI for slightly more affordable yet still expensive housing now that we have two kids. There is not enough space and the neighbor downstairs has complained of noise (my son running around…and probably me chasing him!) =)

    1. Erin M. December 2, 2016 at 3:15 PM

      That trajectory makes sense to me! The fact that LI can be considered affordable is sad…I really wish the cost of living around here wasn’t so high. But at least you’d be a little closer to your job?

      Yikes, noise isn’t fun to deal with (as I learned when I lived in a basement), but I never complained. It’s a normal part of that living situation, especially when kids are involved. That said, it’s nice not to have to worry about it, and to have more space for said running around!

  8. Cheri | Dream Big on a Budget December 5, 2016 at 10:46 PM

    I’ve toyed with the idea of buying a home for the last decade. As a single mom, though, it’s really nice to be able to call a landlord and have things taken care of for me. The downside is that, like you said, I can’t change anything I don’t like.

    I like reading someone else’s perspective!

    1. Erin M. December 6, 2016 at 4:47 PM

      Thanks Cheri! The convenience of renting is pretty nice, at least, when maintenance shows up. ;)

  9. Centsai December 8, 2016 at 12:52 PM

    This is a great post! Living in a good neighborhood and having good neighbors are really a deal breaker! It is important to be in love with your potential house but also your potential neighborhood as well! As for you neighbors, it’s hard to tell by just meeting them once and can’t really find out their true selves until it’s too late!

    1. Erin M. December 8, 2016 at 12:57 PM

      Thanks! You’re very right about that last point – my boyfriend had interacted with them before and they were always nice. Things have progressively gone downhill this past year.

  10. Kelly December 10, 2016 at 9:56 PM

    As a mother of two kids, I prefer owning a house because I have more freedom to restructure and improve our house to fit our needs. I think it’s better to own a house than to rent because you’re saving much money, and based on experience, I get to focus on other financial goals after I paid off the house.

    1. Erin M. December 12, 2016 at 2:26 PM

      That makes sense to me, Kelly! There are definitely good reasons to own.

  11. Mike@ReallyMakeCents February 22, 2017 at 6:05 PM

    Great article, Erin! I have been considering purchasing a home for some time, but I too do not feel like it is an investment and I’ve been having the urge to try living in a new city. This article gave me some food for thought.

    1. Erin M. February 22, 2017 at 6:21 PM

      Thanks Mike! A mortgage/house is a huge commitment. It’s definitely worth thinking about for a while, especially if it means finding “home” elsewhere. =)


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