Hello everyone! Yet another week and another month is in the books. I’m not even going to bother wondering what happened to October. I have one week left in New York, and then it’s time to return back to North Carolina.
But not before I get a few other trips in! I’ll be visiting Boston to see the amazing Kali!
Besides that, I visited the MagnifyMoney offices earlier this week, which was a treat. Erin, Nick, and Brian are always a joy to see, and it was my first time working out of an office since I quit my last job. To be honest, I kind of miss it!
Other than that, I’ve been busy trying to wrap up the month and get off to a good start in November. Most of my nights have been spent watching this wild World Series. As a New Yorker, I should be rooting for the Mets, but I am a Yankees fan, so it feels a little weird… Anyone else been watching?
Being Grateful for Clarity
I can’t stress how happy I’ve been connecting with people outside of the blogosphere. By that I mean reaching out with a simple email and setting aside time to chat. I got to talk with Tonya and Melanie this week, and the conversations I’ve had have given me some clarity.
It’s no secret I’ve struggled to return to blogging after becoming a freelance writer. Every other freelancer I’ve spoken to, for the most part, has said they’ve experienced the same thing. We have to put paying work first, and if we haven’t prioritized monetizing our blogs, it’s difficult to set aside the time to “write for free” when we could be making money.
However, lately I’ve felt like all my creativity has been drained, and it shouldn’t be that way. Most people quit their jobs to freelance to pursue more creative endeavors, and you should always be happy with what you’re working on.
I think the answer is simply pursuing creativity elsewhere. I lean towards the “don’t ‘follow your passion'” side of things because your passion can easily turn into work. It can become…not boring, but I guess mechanical in nature. That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy it – I’m enjoying this far more than I enjoyed answering phones in an office! But part of being self-employed, in my opinion, is doing stuff that excites you.
For that reason, I’m making it a point to focus on those things. As I was talking with Tonya, I mentioned getting back into acting. It’s something I haven’t done since middle school, but if the opportunity presented itself, I would jump on it – paid or not. That’s clearly something I should follow, and Tonya suggested I find an acting class to join. I’m still searching for one, but here’s hoping!
On that note, this might sound silly to some of you, but I’d also like to get back into reading, learning, and playing video games. I have a list of books to get through that I’m sure I could find inspiration from, and I’ve been meaning to improve my Photoshop skills. As for video games, it’s like getting lost in a book (fantasy world) to me.
Hopefully by having other creative outlets, I can get back into blogging more. There are many things that have been on my mind that I want to write about, but it’s hard to do that with little direction. The best analogy I can give is that I’ve felt like I’ve been crawling through a tunnel, clearing a bunch of cobwebs out of the way, and am finally seeing a bit of light at the end.Reflecting on what you have to be #grateful for can give you clarity and direction in life. Click To Tweet
Being Grateful for Discovering I Should Probably Work Away From Home
I’m very much a homebody, especially when I have next to no reason to go outside. I know that sounds sad; I realized a little too late that not prioritizing making friends in a new city was a mistake.
Part of me likes familiar spaces and part of me also just likes convenience. I don’t like driving and dealing with jerks on the road. That has meant my commute has largely been from my bed to my office…which is the second bedroom down the hall.
About a month ago, I moved back out into the living room. My hope was I’d be “forced” to stop working once R got home from work because he usually turns the TV on, and I can’t concentrate on writing when people are talking.
Of course, that hasn’t happened. One thing I’ve been noticing since working here in NY is that my concentration is better when I’m not at home. This past month, I’ve worked at:
- A college library, which was interesting as it brought back some memories (I sound so old and nerdy, wow)
- A public library, which was extremely cold, but still had a nice atmosphere
- Starbucks, which I never thought I’d type, but I needed to get away and I enjoyed it a lot more than I thought I would!
- An actual office
As I was leaving MagnifyMoney, Erin asked me how it felt to work in an office and suggested I look into coworking spaces. After noticing how my productivity increased outside of the home, I think it could be a good solution. Additionally, I think it will help me separate life and work more. If I could establish “office hours,” that would be a miracle.
If I can’t find an affordable option, I’m going to try making a habit of going to the library at least three times a week. I have two in either direction of the apartment, so I don’t have much of an excuse!
Being Grateful for Spreading the Love
Okay, I’m ninja-editing my post just for this. I’ve been trying to reach out to more people to let them know how much I appreciate them, because why not? I definitely don’t do it enough, and I think many of us take it for granted that people know they’re awesome or that we support them.
But nothing, and I mean nothing, beats actually hearing it. I don’t get many emails or comments from readers who aren’t bloggers, and when I do, it really makes my day. Anyone who creates content is always downright happy to hear their work has, in some way, had an impact on someone else.
Knowing this, it made perfect sense to start practicing what I preach. I’ve made it a goal to reach out to at least one person to let them know how great I think they are. This past week, I contacted two content creators I admire a lot. Guess what their responses were? (Honestly, I wasn’t expecting a response!)
…know that this email absolutely made my night, my week, and all the work I’ve done over the last three years mean so much more.
You seriously made my year…I cannot begin to express the gratitude I have for the unbelievably kind words.
How amazing is that? Words have a powerful effect – choose to add positivity to someone’s life by letting them know how they’ve influenced you. I’m absolutely sure you can find one person to reach out to. DO IT. Their responses have made my week and I’m always happy to give back.
Writing Around the Web
On Young Adult Money, I researched and wrote about some of the best personal finance apps and tools out there (a few were new to me!), and the differences between credit unions and big banks.
On Frugal Rules, I reflected on how fast to pay off debt, something I’ve been struggling with for a bit with my student loans.
On GenFKD, I shared my experience saving money from the time I got my first part time job until now, and how other millennials can start making saving a habit.
That’s it for this week! I hope you all enjoyed Halloween, and happy November!
Has there ever been a time in your life where you struggled to gain clarity on the direction you were going? How did you make sense of it? If you’re a freelancer, do you find working outside your living space helpful?