Being Grateful: Twentieth Edition

Hello everyone, I hope you all had a great week! I can’t believe it’s Friday already. I decided to publish this today instead of tomorrow since I didn’t post one at all last week. Things were a little hectic!

First, I want to thank all of you who wished R good luck last week. He went on his scheduled interview on Monday, and from that interview, one of the manager’s suggested he go to another store nearby and interview for a completely different position. R didn’t even know this one existed; apparently only select stores have it. But, it sounded interesting, and because he sadly didn’t think he had a good chance at the other two positions, he went.

That interview ended up going really well. It probably helped that the manager he was interviewing with was from NY, and we all know having something in common during an interview helps break the ice. It went so well the manager actually told R to sleep on his decision and to call him the following day.

Of course, R did, and…no answer. Isn’t that beyond frustrating!? Ahhh. So we had to wait an additional day, but it was worth it, because on Wednesday he got the call that he got the job! This position actually includes a raise, and it’s still 48 hours a week, so he will be able to get overtime. He loses monthly bonuses, and instead gets quarterly bonuses. It’s not a managerial position, so he’s kind of straying from that track right now. We’re thrilled that he’s actually getting paid more though – honestly, I don’t like the idea of relying on bonuses every month.

Details are still being worked out, specifically, when he will be able to go down there. Since this is a different position, apparently they do things differently, so we are really hoping we get the two weeks we need so we can move down there together, instead of R leaving before me. I will be sure to update all of you next week when things become more clear, but I wanted to share the good news for now!

being grateful

Being grateful was easy this week! Obviously, the biggest thing I’m grateful for this week is that our plans are finally coming to fruition. We were very much hoping we would be able to move by April, the latest, June. I’m also grateful that R’s flights went well.

I can’t lie to you guys, I actually did end up going down there, mostly because my mom covered my flight going there, which I am very grateful for. The return flight ended up going back down (talk about a roller coaster!) to $234, and I used my rewards points to cover part of it. Overall, it was only $100, which I didn’t mind spending for a weekend trip. If R ends up getting relocation assistance, I plan on paying her (and myself) back.

It was a lot of fun to see my parents, even if it was only for a day and a half. My mom and I went for a walk around their community and wow, I was actually sweating a little! I’ve been so used to 40 degree weather lately, I was not prepared for 60-70, but it was nice. We looked at some apartments and drove through the area on our way to meet R. It was definitely worth it to get a sense of the area, even though he ended up at a different store!

Since I will likely not be anonymous after the move (gasp), I’ll tell you all that we’re moving near Charlotte, NC. Passing through the city was interesting. It’s definitely not up to par with NYC, which I like, because NYC is just overwhelming to me. My mom didn’t like it at all, it was too crowded to her…then again, she also hates the city. I’m looking forward to exploring new places, mostly parks! I’ve heard there’s quite a few there.

Besides that, my boss took this week off, so we have all been able to relax at work. So nice. I have to work Monday, but I want to look on the bright side: that means overtime, and Monday’s are like Saturday’s – only open 9:30-4:30, so I get to sleep in a little and forego lunch. I’d rather sleep in!

Speaking of which, I have actually been doing pretty well with getting up earlier. I’ve stalled at around 7am, but this still leaves me with about 35 minutes left after I’ve gotten ready, which I am okay with for now. I hate rushing around in the morning, and this allows me to take my time and not worry.

How did your week go? What are you being grateful for? Have you ever had to relocate several states away?



  1. Ashley March 28, 2014 at 8:55 AM

    AHHHHH so exciting! and I am SO JEALOUS. I’ve heard great things about Charlotte- I would love to live down there! So happy that things are working out for you guys :) Congrats!!!!

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:27 AM

      Thanks!! Haha, maybe you can convince your boyfriend to head there instead of back to VA? =)

  2. Andrew@LivingRichcheaply March 28, 2014 at 9:12 AM

    Congrats to R on the job and glad to hear your plans are coming to fruition. Sad that a fellow blogger from NY is leaving…but I just read that Charlotte is one of the best cities in terms of low cost of living and good job opportunities…so that seems like a great landing spot.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:26 AM

      Thank you Andrew! I’ll always have my roots here =). I’m sure I’ll be back to visit family for the holidays as well. I’ve actually read that there aren’t a whole lot of job opportunities there because so many people are moving there, but that’s why I’m really glad R will have his job. I don’t think we would have moved anywhere if we were both going to be jobless. I’ll be sure to do a cost comparison when we get settled.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:25 AM

      Thanks! I wouldn’t mind heading upstate at some point in the future; we both love it there. Doesn’t check off warmer, but definitely more scenic and quiet!

  3. Erin @ My Alternate Life March 28, 2014 at 10:32 AM

    That’s awesome! Congrats to R :)

    This week I’m grateful I was able to shift my schedule and get a day off with my husband. My schedule has been crazy packed lately and I’m grateful I could have a full day where I wasn’t working.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:24 AM

      Thanks! Aw, that’s great you were able to spend some time together. I look forward to the weekends when R and I can just relax as he’s usually exhausted when he comes home from work.

  4. Alicia @ Financial Diffraction March 28, 2014 at 12:17 PM

    Woo hoo! Sooooo exciting all around. Are you turning into a freelancer and that’s why you’re not going to be anonymous? It seems to be the cool thing to do ;)

    When we moved, it was 5 hours away, but within the same province. I ended up going up before my fiance while he tied up loose ends in our home town. I found the apartment and was working, then I went back and picked him and the cats up. Thankfully relocation was included in my job offer, otherwise I would have found it so much more stressful. We got the “full meal deal” move, with them packing and all. Worth it!

    What I’m grateful for was having a very relaxed two days in the middle of my week. We had a huge blizzard and my employer was closed for a day and a half. I still did some computer work and such, but it wasn’t full days since my job is 50/50 office/lab.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:23 AM

      My plan is to give it a try! I have heard iffy things about the job market down there, so I’m a little apprehensive, but I hope things work out. I’ll definitely be talking about my plans in a future post.

      I honestly don’t know if I would like other people packing our stuff! I’m also using the opportunity to throw things away so we take less things with us. If I haven’t used it the entire time we’ve been living here, it’s not coming. Hopefully we will find out more about the relocation assistance on Monday.

      The snow really needs to stop, but at least you got out of work for a little!

  5. Shannon @ Financially Blonde March 28, 2014 at 1:11 PM

    I used to live in Charlotte for a year and still have some great friends there! If you need suggestions on fun/cheap things to do, or are looking for new friends, let me know. It is a beautiful city with a lot of really nice people. And I am glad that you got to make the trip as well and see your family. Definitely lots to be grateful for on your end! I am grateful that I had a good trip to Austin to meet with my publisher and my hubby got to join me and drink some margaritas along the way. It set me back on my work schedule, but it was worth it.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 8:01 AM

      Thanks Shannon, I will definitely be asking for suggestions once we get all moved in and settled. It seems like a really cute city with a lot to offer.

      Glad you had a good trip with your husband! It does sound very worth it, looking forward to hearing more about the book.

  6. Addison @ Cashville Skyline March 28, 2014 at 3:06 PM

    Congratulations! Exciting stuff!

    I’ve been trying to continually remind myself of all the things to be grateful for – health, family, and friends. Spending a week without traveling and sleeping in my own bed is pretty freaking awesome too :)

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 7:56 AM

      Thank you! Oh wow, I can imagine being home after traveling is very nice. There’s nothing like sleeping in your own bed.

  7. DEBt DEBs March 28, 2014 at 11:25 PM

    Awesome and congratulations to you guys! I think the climate in NC is perfect. I’ve heard good things about Charlotte too.

    I’m grateful that spring is just around the corner (yes, she’s late, but isn’t everyone from time to time?)

    I’m also grateful that I was able to spend some time with my grandson today.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 7:54 AM

      Thanks! I hope we can get used to it. When we were down there it felt like they were having spring already (my allergies were acting up badly). After all the snow we had this winter I won’t be missing it.

  8. SarahN March 29, 2014 at 12:42 AM

    Wow what wonderful news… I wish I was about to have such a big change – so much unknown, but so many opportunities too. It’s a shame you’ve found a (better) job where you enjoy most of it, and have to change again, but hey, this is part of your grand plan.

    I’m grateful for
    1. Sunshine on Saturday, after a rainy week :(
    2. Great month 2 measurements for my ‘weigh in’ (-13cm!!)
    3. A great trip to Japan coming into fruition
    4. Seeing my parents whilst my BF is at work drinks (ie everyone is happy!)

    Leave it at that

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 7:53 AM

      I will miss all my coworkers and friends, that’s for sure, but I know this is the right move for us.

      I’m glad you’re having such success with your healthy habits! That’s awesome.

  9. Brian @ Luke1428 March 29, 2014 at 8:08 AM

    Congrats! I know this has been a long time coming and very difficult to wait through. It will be a drastic change but I think you will enjoy all the South has to offer.

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 7:50 AM

      Thanks Brian! When I spent a week down there with my parents last year I enjoyed it a lot. Everyone seems a lot nicer.

  10. anna March 29, 2014 at 8:39 PM

    YAY, congratulations to R, as well as to both of you for the upcoming move!! It sounds like a great opportunity for R, and what a win to be closer to your parents! That’s so sweet of you to want to pay your mom back – I’m sure it was all her pleasure, too! Glad to hear you had quality time with your parents. :) Hope the move goes well!

    1. E.M. March 30, 2014 at 7:47 AM

      Thanks Anna! We are both really excited and I can’t wait to share more updates with everyone.

  11. Debt Hater March 30, 2014 at 2:06 PM

    Congrats to both of you, it’s awesome to see things work out for you! And your boyfriend getting a pay raise makes things even better/easier. Look forward to reading the updates of how your move goes and how it works out after that.

    Meanwhile I will be staying up here in the cold northeast for now! It does not feel like Spring yet…

    1. E.M. April 1, 2014 at 9:04 PM

      Thank you! The raise was good news, even better that it was unexpected. The position he was looking to transition to was paying the same now. While it goes further down there, we still would have been relying a bit on monthly bonuses which isn’t a great thing.

      Today felt a little bit more like Spring, but the snow we got yesterday was awful.

  12. Jen @Sprout Wealth March 31, 2014 at 3:23 AM

    Yay! Congratulations to R! You truly have more than one reason to be grateful but blessings come your way because you have done something good to deserve it. So happy for you both!

    1. E.M. April 1, 2014 at 9:02 PM

      Thanks Jen! I like to believe in positive karma, but R has worked hard to make this happen.

  13. DC @ Young Adult Money March 31, 2014 at 7:07 AM

    Congrats to R on the new job! Also glad you were able to go down there as well. Looking forward to hearing about your move and transition.

    I had to laugh when I saw this -> “my boss took this week off, so we have all been able to relax at work.” My manager was supposed to be on PTO on Friday but then he cancelled so he was there. It’s just more laid-back when your manager isn’t there (and I think I get a lot more done!).

    1. E.M. April 1, 2014 at 9:09 AM

      Thanks! I plan on blogging all about it. Should be interesting at the very least!

      My boss does that a lot. She’s pretty much afraid to take vacation, so we were very surprised that she stayed home the whole week.

  14. Laurie @thefrugalfarmer April 1, 2014 at 3:53 PM

    YAY!!! Charlotte is on our list of cities to visit someday, and oldest daughter, who is a huge NASCAR fan, would love for us to live there. :-) You’ll have to let us know what it’s like. :-)

    1. E.M. April 1, 2014 at 9:00 PM

      Oh I will! I did see the NASCAR headquarters when we went through the city. I’ll have to take a picture for you when we get there!

  15. NZ Muse April 5, 2014 at 7:02 PM

    Congrats that’s awesome!!

    1. E.M. April 6, 2014 at 10:17 PM

      Thank you!


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